Tao of Toughest Time in our Life!

Tao of toughest times

Toughest times are faced by most us of us at least once in the lifetime. By toughest times I mean the months/ years when financial/health/social problems come together with other issues like conflicts etc. These are the days, when one finds himself alone against everyone including some dark elements, when enemies seem indomitable, when one is lying down hurt and the list of friends start getting shorter, courage and patience run low and living one day more seems strenuous, when the darkest thoughts of running away or even suicide become frequent. Some of us finally can not take it any more and then the unfortunate incidents of suicides take place.
It may be surprising but at least 75% of us have had serious thoughts of suicide at some time or other during some phase or other of life.
However, such times and phases are surmountable and can be survived with courage, patience and absolute faith in god along with the following.
To begin with, the first thought one should keep in one’s mind is that, “As good phases pass away, bad times also pass away.” There will be life after this evening, tomorrow morning and later on. A movie has an end, good or bad, but life doesn’t ever, ever end. Life goes on and on and on. It never stops. So the spell we have to survive is not this week or month or year. What we have to survive is today, this day. Just survive this day. Carry on for this day only, tomorrow things will change for better. Don’t give up now. Tomorrow favorable winds will blow. Tomorrow, shoreline will be sighted. Tomorrow we will land. God is with you. Before betterment, things also look at their worst. Hold on! Help is on its way! God works in a mysterious elaborate manner, and help is received from quarters unanticipated and unheard of. Blessed will you be, darkness will wane and finally disappear, starting from tomorrow. Good Tidings are on their way. Hold the fort for the hour. Believe in tomorrow and go to bed with faith in God.
Also, the late be the hours, the nearer is the first light of the rising sun. Sleep and tomorrow will be a better day. The first step towards the oasis in the seemingly endless desert. Many face the same and that’s the way they endure.
Don’t ever harbor a thought on the lines of, “It is always me to have the most rotten luck.” or “With my luck it can only get worse”. No my friend, you are one of the most lucky, you are alive and with most bodily organs working. People have survived with far less and with sunnier dispositions. One can not the worth of an arm, an eye, an ear, a liver, a kidney, a heart, a leg or even few fingers till he has seen the prospect of loosing them quite close. You are blessed to have them with you.
You are also blessed to have a supporting wife/children/parents, that hold you high and love you more than anything, though they are stressed and burden and depressed under the same condition and that spark of love is right now is clouded by the smoke. However, with this warmth of love you will ride triumphantly out of this dark freezing night.
The better parts of such bad times are that they show us true faces of our ‘Friends’ and ‘Family’ and one can count the hands truly on his side.
The other thing is that when your family emerges out of the abyss, they would have learned many a things including value of family, the limited value of money and luxuries of life, the true worth of courage and togetherness, the belief in god, destiny and worth of one’s own toil. They will also learn the value of perseverance, humility and simplicity of living. These lessons will be with them as well as you forever and will turn out to be more helpful than a few temporary luxuries and few short lived comforts. This wisdom, maturity, inner depth, thoughtfulness can neither be tutored nor imparted, but only earned by sweat of toil.
The faith in god and destiny is the true worship, as well as the lifebuoy, the solitary raft. Your belief, faith and devotion will bring you to the shores. Find dome time daily for worshiping/mediation at home/temples/churches etc. Sit with like minded people. Do it surely. Be connected with your inner self.
For dealing with worries, please go through my post on worries. Please also go though posts on worries, absolute faith, relationships, angers, violence.
Bad accidents do happen by divine will, some are compensated over time, some are not, but life won’t stop. Move on, the past never happened, the future will never come. What you have is today. Even most unfortunate death in a family will not stop the clock. God will provide you all with strength to fill the shoes left vacant. Remember his name and keep walking. Keep taking one step at a time, the voyage will not sustain against your individual steps.
May the most merciful god impart you courage, patience, strength, inner peace, faith, hope that sees you through the darkest hour of your life. After this there will only be better times. God be with you. Bless us all!