Tao of Defeating Anger: It isn't him, it is me!

Most of us suffer from a very harmful disease, a silent killer, that not only shortens the longevity, but also hampers our efficiency, judgement, social, professional and family life. This disease is 'Anger'. The variants are the underlying simmer, and the explosive bursts.
Usually, when under the spell of anger, we blame the person seemingly causing the hitch, or that stubborn idiot, or that arrogant fool, that greedy pig etc.
Ergo, every time the flame flares up, it is the other guy, its always him.
However, in course of interacting with people( including me once) known for a bad temper, their short fuse, shouting and even breaking things, carrying an thunder looming over their head everywhere they go, be it home, office or anywhere else, i have learnt that it was the enraged person usually. I myself was carrying the gasoline and gunpowder, any flash provided by circumstances and i went 'BOOM'. It was me. When I threw the fuel, things stopped exploding.
Life was livelier, life was beautiful, persons i met were nicer and more helpful, was having a better life, better relationships and most important was and still am happy. It was always in my hand. Its always in your hand. Throw your fuel away.
First accept, it is you, then all else will follow. This is the first step.
Please refer to my articles on relationships, anger and ego on this blog.
Follow it and forget anger and a fiery life.
This is the Tao. Tao of defeating anger. Tao of freedom and later awakening.