"The Miracle Medicine: Love"

Today these are common problems post 30s- anxiety, anger, insomnia, weight gain, spells of depression.

As well as "Emotional dryness ": feeling no emotion of love, affection, excitement etc.

Present diagnosis and treatment: None, only symptomatic treatment.

Real cause:
"Adrenal Fatigue "

Sometimes we push our body inspite of fatigue for extra hours for  work, exam or party purpose.

Body has a wonderful mechanism to maintain output inspite of fatigue.
It is the " Adrenaline Boost".

When we consider something to be very serious, mind considers it a situation of "Survival" i.e. "life and death "

Now hypothalamus asks adrenal gland to pump up the Adrenaline level in blood.

Now, due to the spurt, these will increase:
Heart rate, respiration, sweating, wakefulness, energy level, muscle power, awareness and focus,

These will drop: sleep, feeling of pain

Examples of Adrenaline spurt: A wounded man running for miles when chased by tiger, a mother running into a burning house to save her child without feeling burn, athletes during tournaments. A cornered desperate man suddenly gathering incredible force and overpowering many.

Problems: Adrenaline being such a lifesaver is still meant to be used like a lifesaver only, ie once in a blue moon .
In nature, such "Survival " scenes are far fewer tham today's urban life. Therefore,  nature has allotted only a limited quantity of Adrenaline to us.

Nowadays,  we mostly consume the quota by 35+,  hence the burnout due to little adrenaline generation by body also called "Adrenal Fatigue " . Hence people find it hard to go on if not due to compulsions of carreer or family liabilities and not for joy.

Adrenal fatigue gives rise to many diseases and can be fatal in long term.

Solution: Love, affection, Compassion

Oxytocin is behind all human bonding: whether of  mother -child, spouses, friends. Without oxytocin there would be no civilization, in fact not even life itself if not for bonding between mother -child.

Oxytocin and Adrenaline reduce each other and come from two different states of minds. Adrenaline promotes lower animalistic drives, while Oxytocin promotes bliss, Compassion, togetherness.

Adrenaline - primitive, animalistic behavior
Oxytocin - Supreme, towards divine

"Oxytocin treatment ":
Adrenal fatigue can be countered very easily by Oxytocin treatment,  which also makes life full of joy and bliss.

How to :
1. Cut down on violent / stress full films, news or saas bahu serials: mind does not differentiate between "Reel or Real". Thats why u laugh, weep, or feel exhilaration at the climax of a movie or dream or a match. Your mind just lived the whole experience with all its negative results.
In fact we ho through such films, matches or theme parks, adventure sports just to squeeze that last bit of Adrenaline, for the feeling of being "Alive".
2. Spend more quality time with family, kids, friends and pets.
3. Prefer emotional comedies. Such serials, literature even photographs help. Romantic songs, esp.of your adolescence
4. Meditation
5. Cuddling
6. Massage
7. Food: Essential amino acids- fish, soyabean, nuts, white sesame (til), CHOCOLATE ( said to mend broken hearts), milk products ( hence DOODH BADAAM)
8. GOOD SLEEP
9. Drinking 4-5 ltrs water
10. Breathing exercises

The best part is, Oxytocin supply is infinite!

So,  take the path of Oxytocin and live the life, the way it is meant to be.

One more thing: Affection can not come for any one till you hold grievances and complaints against them un your heart.
Hence, forgiveness is the first step to compassion.

It is due to the divine benefits of oxytocin that Jesus, Buddha, sufis all shown us the path of Compassion and Forgiveness.

So, "All you need is... Love!"

Love is God!

Love is not only the happiness and joy of life but Love is the path to God also.
The road to God goes through the steps of Query, doubt, knowledge, assimilation and application of this knowledge with meditation for instance, Achieving Awareness of the true nature of the life, the world and God and then comes the enlightenment leading to God.

But, On this path, our brain and thinking can only take us upto the level of knowledge only and no further! The thinking brain can look  but it will not see or percieve.

After that level only the heart can be the guide, to the hidden path of Love.

God and his spirit is everywhere in this world, all around us and in fact inside us also. Every Human, animal or particle us hiding the divine glow inside itself and this cloak of invisibility of is called 'Maya' or Ignorance.
Ishvasyopnishad says that all that is visible and all that is invisible is Supreme God himself. Also it says that "The enlightened is the one who sees all in God and God in all."

In an anecdote, Once when Guru Nanak Dev ji was sleeping in Holy Mecca with his feet towards the Kaaba, he was reprimanded by somebody for keeping his feet towards the "Home of God". He expressed his tiredness and requested the person to kindly move his feet towards the direction where God did not reside. When the angry person started moving his feet he was amazed to see that whatever direction he moved he would see Kaabasharif in front of him. God was residing everywhere, and he was blessed to see it.

Our God, whom we try to love with all our hearts is with us and inside us all the time, yet we, the innocent children in our ignorance can not see him. Our reliance on our physical eyed fail us. We search him in temples and churches. We go to far away places for pilgrimage. We go to Masters, Gurus and Babas. Finally we find him, if we are successful, in our hearts. We find him in ourselves, in our parents and family, in our neighbours, in all humans, in all living beings and in all the non living as well and then is our journey to our dear eternal home completed.
When we see God in all humans, it is not just a statement but acceptance of all, any caste, creed, color, age, gender or wealth as our dear ones. When the enlightened sees into the eyes of any person he sees the spirit of God hiding in those ignorant eyes. He treats all the Living with same compassion as with his beloved.

The sufis and fakirs have realized this for a very long time and in a story, once  a fakir was sharing a bread with a dog. When somebody asked him why he behaving so absurdly, he was answered by the fakir that, " The  God and The God are sharing The God, why are you asking O God."
This is the true path to God and whatever form we worship our God in and whatever temple or church we go to, let us first love ourselves, our parents and family also. Let us embrace our neighbors and all others with the same compassion. Has anybody ever seen any fault or ugliness in his beloved, his mother or his child. Love sees only the good and that is why Love is the beauty of life. Yes, it is not easy and yes, it will not happen any time soon. But, it is the true path, it will happen gradually and surely and life will be much more beautiful on this path.
The person who needs the most compassion  from you first is nobody else but yourself. Forgive yourself for past errors and all, accept and appreciate yourself the way God has made you and look at yourself with the same compassion. Then let us do the same with the family, the neighbours, the acquaintances and the strangers, whoever they be. What is the surprise is that the Love spread by you is also returned to you by others and the only way of getting Loved has always been by Giving the  love.
Since we already love our family, the first person of non-family encountered to us is our neighbour and maybe that why God askes us to "Love our neighbours" as that is the first step to loving all living beings.

This is the way to have a happy life and build up a Beautiful and Happy world brick by brick and also the path to our beloved God.
The path of Love.

The Heart of the Religion and the Religion of the Heart!

One of my favorite Zen anecdotes,
In a Japanese monastery, a naughty cat used to disturb the daily meditation practice of the disciples. So, the master ordered the cat to be tied up during meditation. This goes on for a while. Later on, the master passes away, disciples pass out and finally the cat passes away too. Unfortunately tying of the cat has now become a ritual, a custom. Cats are purchased, if needed, but no meditation session allowed without the tying up of the cat. One master is so convinced of the benefits of this practice that he even writes a book on this subject.

It is an amusing story, but unfortunately it is true. Our religions have changed a lot too throughout ages. Lot of things got added, another lot deleted or obscured. Sometimes the practices start going in the opposite directions too. While the common source of all human races is an interesting subject and another one is the mutual interchange between all major relegions through time and trust me there is a lot of material available in this regard with lots of surprises.

For  example, the concepts of Vedanta goes on evolving with time and after thousands of years, Buddhism is born in India with common elements of Mediatation or Dhyan. The Buddhism travel north with several monks, Bodhidharma most famous of them. Buddhism is assimilated by China, but in synthesis with Taoism evolving as Chan and these practices finally become Zen in Japan, which again branches into many schools.
There are many such instances with every relegion. Our ancestors in ancient times were far more connected, open and exploring than we think.
The fact is that while every relegion has branched into many sects with overlapping but yet unique beliefs and practices, through generations our practices have also diverted far greatly from our ancestors. Even in a family there are minor and subtle differences in individual beliefs and practices. It seems that there are hardly even two households having exactly same set of beliefs and practices.

So, who is correct finally? Which religion and sect is accurate?

They all are. While a lot of ornamentation of rituals and practices have evolved in every religion through the millenia, deep down every religion teaches us a few most important things like,
Belief, faith, love and surrender to one Almighty God,
Being good to others,
and Compassion to all. This is the nectar, the soul, the message of every religion.
Surrender to God and Love to fellow human beings is the Heart of every religion and God, whatever name or form we percieve him by, would like us to focus on these only.
Ishvasyopnishad recognises the learned or the enlightened as only those who see everyone in God and God in everyone.
Whatever be the frequency of worshipping or size of sacrifice, God would pefer if we treated all his children lovingly instead of harassing or quarreling with.

So, let us keep following the religion of our forefathers and follow their practices, but with a total faith and surrender to God and a heart full of compassion for all our fellow human beings as the children of the same  father.
This Love will only come from the inside, the soul.

So dear friends, Surrender and Love resides in the Heart of every religion and it is the Religion of the Heart.

God bless all of us!

Quotes of Guru Nanak Dev:

“Of all religions, the most exalted is to worship the lord and do good deeds.”

“The enlightened God-conscious person takes delight in doing good deeds for others.”

“Do not say that the Vedas, the Bible and the Quran are false. Those who do not contemplate their scriptures are the ones who are false.”

“I see no stranger, I see no enemy- I get along with everyone.”

“Whoever God has created, I accept as good.”

“This is the sublime I have obtained from the Holy and the Wise. The Divine Light of God is pervading in all. Beholding him Nanak blossoms forth in Joy.”

“Answer Evil with goodness, do not fill your mind with anger.Your body shall not suffer from any disease and you shall obtain everything.”

“The God-conscious being delights in doing good deeds for others. The God-conscious being acts in the common good.”

“Recognize the Lord's light within all, and do not consider social class or status, there are no classes or castes in the world thereafter.”

“In the beginning, Allah created the Light, from that light, He has created all mortal beings.

From the One Light, the entire Universe came. So who is good, and who is bad?”

“The clay is the same, but the cosmic potter has created vessels of many kind. There is nothing wrong with the pot of clay-there can be no error by the potter. The One true Lord abides in all, by His power, every thing is fashioned.”

“In that place where the lowly are cared for-there the blessings of your Glance of grace rain down”.

Quotes of Jesus Christ!

“Do not let your hearts be troubled. Trust in God; trust also in me.”

“So I say to you, Ask and it will be given to you; search, and you will find; knock, and the door will be opened for you.”

“But I say to you, Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, so that you may be sons of your Father who is in heaven; for he makes his sun rise on the evil and on the good, and sends rain on the just and on the unjust.”

“A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another.”

“All the commandments: You shall not commit adultery, you shall not kill, you shall not steal, you shall not covet, and so on, are summed up in this single command: You must love your neighbor as yourself.”

“If you love those who love you, what credit is that to you? For even sinners love those who love them. And if you do good to those who do good to you, what credit is that to you? For even sinners do the same.”

“Let the one among you who is without sin be the first to cast a stone.”

“And know that I am with you always; yes, to the end of time.”

“Do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself. Let the day's own trouble be sufficient for the day.”

“Little children, you are from God, and have conquered them; for the one who is in you is greater than the one who is in this world.”

“Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind. This is the first and great commandment. And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself. On these two commandments hang all the law and the prophets.”

“A new commandment I give unto you, That ye love one another; as I have loved you, that ye also love one another.”

“Blessed are the pure in heart: for they shall see God.”

“Judge not, that you be not judged. For with the judgment you pronounce you will be judged, and with the measure you use it will be measured to you. Why do you see the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, 'Let me take the speck out of your eye,' when there is the log in your own eye?”

“You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye”

“You have heard that it was said, 'You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy. But I say to you, Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you.”

“So whatever you wish that others would do to you, do also to them, for this is the Law and the Prophets.”

Eliminating my enemies!

I had made many enemies. Well everyone does, especially those who are doing good. Some were at my workplace, some in my colony and Some in the relations as well. All of them wanted to see my downfall. Some of them, my greatest enemies, wanted to see my and my name completely destroyed. I had to be on my own guard to protect myself from their machinaction and evil designs. It was becoming more and more difficult to survive and be at peace. Thoughts of them used to rule in my mind before I slept and after I awoke. Sometimes thier evil presence ruined my dreams too.
Then i met somebody, somebody who taught me how to finish my enemies instead. I learnt an easy and successful way to eliminate my enemies.
The way was very simple.
I developed friendship with them. It is better to win a friend than to destroy an enemy and the best way to be peace.
I was eliminating enmity instead of enemies and to have your enemy shed his enmity, it was me who had to do it first.
First of all I accepted them as other humans who had the common human failures. They were as prone to ego, self righteous approach, the folley of judging others as was I. They also misinterpreted words and attached motived to words or actions. You know, words are the worst form of communication possible. Every word, every phrase, every reference and example, every rise and fall in tones has separate intonations for separate persons.
In fact, what we hear in a sentence is what we actually think , the speaker likely to say. Shockingly, as soon as the speaker opens his mouth, we start forming our own version of what he is going to say, what he is saying and what he has said. Also, the same sentence has separate meaning and motive for us for separate speakers. Our own words are always wise and words of those we have faith in, such as our Guru, are gospel truths. However same sentences if spoken our enemies or considered lesser to us, we find them bookish, stupid or sometimes superficial or show off. This means than words have no fixed meaning for us and hence there is a hell lot of possibility of misunderstandings and confusions. Look around, such incidences happen on dozens a day basis, because we do't understand each other or keep judging others continuously with every word or action and the motives we attach to both of them. Even great wars like Mahabharat started with some thoughtless statements that were taken too seriously. Even the biggest conflicts in our family start with some misunderstood words.
Main reason we make enemies is because of the miscommunication and or the lack of communication.
Lack of communication can create fences between not only neighbors, colleagues or friends but also destroy completely the love between relatives and worst between a couple. The marriage counsellors, what do they do if not to emcourage the couple to have a conversation. Falling in Love was easiest, but loving each other enough to forgive them is the hardest part. This Great wall of silence can be so intimidating that nobody even dares to try to speak the first word.
We think that "Why should I say sorry or start the talk. It was I who was right. It was I who was hurt.". Funny! Everybody thinks himself right and considers himself the victim. It is absurd. In arguments humans are not right or wrong, it is the intolerance, the misunderstanding and most imprortant double standards what is wrong.
A land lord wants his tenant to behave differently than he used to do as  a tenant. A subordinates wants his boss to be less bossy than he he himself actually is. A mother in law finds the same behavior and action of the daughter in law objectionable ,which were correct when shes was the daughter in law. A father considers his fashionable son as misguided while the father himself followed the dressing of the movie stars of his own times. This is what we humans are prone to and therefore forgive other for being so.
This intolerance, self righteousness, the miscommunication and the lack of communication are the reason of maximum conflicts. We think the other is after us so we also should be after him.

Surprisingly, the older a conflict is , the bigger the problem is, the easier it is to be resolved also. All that is needed is the courage to take the first step to walk the distance, extend the first hand or speak the first word. Sometimes a "Hi!" will demolish the wall of silence and enmity faster than the Joshuah's trumpet and the walls of Jericho in the biblicale tale. Sitting down and talking it over can resolve most of the issues of the world. The problem is the lack of courage to initiate dialogue. I have seen years of conflict of groups of people resolving after a 30 minute chat. What is funny that sometimes the actual root of conflict was so miniscule and sometimes out of the memory to.
Another advice, " A good memory is a curse. Forgetfullnes is divine."
Why cherish the trash of the worst experience of our life in the mind! Do we keep broke glassware or torn shoes in the cupboard? Keep the mind also adorned with the brightest flowers of great memories and optimism just like your drawing room.
Also, never never ever be afraid to initiate the resoultion. Making the first call is not insulting but earns honour. It does not show weakness, it displays strength. It is not in any way inferior. Also you are doing it more for your own happiness and peace than for others.

So, when I developed the courage to walk the first step and shake hands, sit down to talk and extend arms to embrace my enemy, to forgive them for being what I also am like sometimes, that was the day I started eliminating my enemies.

Now I can't think of any existing enemies. I have eliminated all of them, by making them Friends.

Quotes of Buddha-1

“All that we are is the result of what we have thought. The mind is everything. What we think we become.”- Buddha

“Peace comes from within. Do not seek it without.”- Buddha

“Thousands of candles can be lit from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared.” - Buddha

“You will not be punished for your anger, you will be punished by your anger.” - Buddha

“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” - Buddha

“Three things cannot be long hidden: the sun, the moon, and the truth.”- Buddha

“Those who are free of resentful thoughts surely find peace.” - Buddha

“To understand everything is to forgive everything” - Buddha

“When the mind is pure, joy follows like a shadow that never leaves.”-Buddha

“The only real failure in life is not to be true to the best one knows.”- Buddha

“You cannot travel the path until you have become the path itself”- Buddha

“When you realize how perfect everything is you will tilt your head back and laugh at the sky” - Buddha

“However many holy words you read,However many you speak,What good will they do you If you do not act on upon them?”- Buddha

“A jug fills drop by drop.”- Buddha

“The tongue like a sharp knife… Kills without drawing blood.”- Buddha

“Believe nothing, no matter where you read it, or who said it, no matter if I have said it, unless it agrees with your own reason and your own common sense.”- Buddha

“Even death is not to be feared by one who has lived wisely.”- Buddha

“A dog is not considered a good dog because he is a good barker. A man is not considered a good man because he is a good talker.” - Buddha

“There is nothing more dreadful than the habit of doubt. Doubt separates people. It is a poison that disintegrates friendships and breaks up pleasant relations. It is a thorn that irritates and hurts; it is a sword that kills.”- Buddha

“The way is not in the sky. The way is in the heart.”- Buddha

“Have compassion for all beings, rich and poor alike; each has their suffering. Some suffer too much, others too little.”- Buddha

“Teach this triple truth to all: A generous heart, kind speech, and a life of service and compassion are the things which renew humanity.”- Buddha

“The whole secret of existence is to have no fear. Never fear what will become of you, depend on no one. Only the moment you reject all help are you freed.”- Buddha

“No one saves us but ourselves. No one can and no one may. We ourselves must walk the path.”- Buddha