Better Me - Wu Wei

To be a happier, better adjusted, calmer ,more mature and more productive person, we don't have to be someone else who we see as our role model, its impossible also by the way. What we need to do is to become a slightly better version of ourselves and keep the process going on gradually.

An eggshell broken from outside is not likely to give birth to a healthy and complete life. It has to be broken from inside when the life to be born is ready ,at that particular time ,to come forward and breath in the air. Till then it has to lie still inside the egg and let the transformation take place, at its own pace.

Similarly we also have to keep visualising the image of the better form of ourselves we want to evolve into and let the internal  process go on step by step , gradually, over time, without taking load or hating the person we presently are, without hurry and it shall surely happen.

We are good enough at present and some day tomorrow we shall be still little better and so one ...

It's the way of the Wu Wei, the effortless effort of Taoism!

From a stressed to a free mind!

 The moment one realizes that one is not the director of the cosmic play playing across ages but just a part actor with some scenes as per script, he is free of most of stresses and anxieties.

Then comes the observer perspective. observer of self , own moods, own reactions, own misbehaviours and deviations, then awareness of the building up, then awareness of the factors, then the status, then of the choice of responses, then freedom .

Rich or Poor?

A poor man didn't know he was poor till he met a rich man,

A rich man didn't know he was rich till he met a poor man. 

Not For Me!

His eyes slowly opened.

To his amazement, he was finding himself himself in a unique, magical and serene place.

 
He was lying on a cloud. 

The ambience had was a different slight bluish diffused light.

He was feeling as if in a dream and  trying to understand his environment.

 
He recalled his most recent memory of him lying in a bed of some hospital and Doctors and Medical staff moving around him in their uniforms. He recalled himself being in acute pain also.

Now, where was he? Which was this place? Must be a dream?

 
He slowly rose and stood up. Suddenly he heard a voice calling his name. He turned to find an old man at a distance, with a white flowing beard and a face which was as if glowing, sitting on a golden throne, beckoning him to come to himself.

He approached the old man in heightened amazement and asked in a quivering voice :
"Who are you? Where am I?"

The old man said "I am your God. You are with me."

He said: "You mean I am in heaven!"

 
God: "Nope. U were in heaven earlier, when u were alive."

He asked in a shock : "What? And Hell!?"

God: "That was also there."

He:"What? Meaning?" 

God: "That, ur life, was everything. U cud make it Heaven or Hell also. If u were happy, then it was heaven, if you were sad it was hell."

Man: "Lord, What r u saying? I was told that u are the most merciful and award the good people by bringing them to heaven."

God: "And where did I say or write so? It's u humans who say and write such things. And where is the mercy in giving something after death?"

Man: " Then what about those pleasures of heaven like golden Palaces, beautiful consorts, delicious cuisine, finest wines.. Such pleasures for an eternity? "

God :" Eternity? Meaning millions, Billions, trillions of ur years? "

" Forget such an infinitely long period, can u enjoy the luxurious pleasures of most decelicious food etc, even for one month, without being fed up of it? Can u eat ur most favorite food for three days consistently? Even ur most favorite food would taste like poison to u by the 4th day. Then any pleasure would feel like pain of hell in long run or no? Also, just think about how it can be justified to award or torture someone for "eternity" for his/her act in a life of 1, 10 or even 100 years? "

Man:" But Lord that's u taking our test about who is Good and who is Bad, no? Good ppl go to heaven and Bad ppl go to the hell. "

God:" Really? Ok take it this way, you all believe I am all knowing and almighty also, or not?
If I am all knowing then what's there that's unknown to me and that I need to conduct a test to find out? "

Man:" Then why did u make sin and virtue? "

God:" Why I would I, God, make such thing as sin?"

Man:" Yes lord. It wasn't you, it was Satan who created Sin, in rebellion against you . "

God:" But as per you it was I who created Satan, because, as per you, nothing happens without my will, no?

Man:" But satan rebelled, Didn't he Lord?"

God: "Could this alleged rebellion have happened without my will, my being almighty and all? Or cud I have been unaware of the future while making him, being omniscient either?"

Man: "Lord I am highly confused!"

God: " It's simple. You have beliefs that your almighty and all knowing God created Satan, who created sin in rebellion with him,no?
Now these beliefs are contradictory as well as mutually exclusive & therfore cant all be true at the same time. Therefore there can't be no such thing as a God-Satan duality or if Satan exists then there can't be no such thing as a God. And if everything happens in the world by my will, why would I torture u for an eternity for being an agency of my own will?"

Man:"Then these books I have been following my whole life?"

God:" I never wrote a Book and why would I need a Book or a person or any medium to get to you. I should have given everything to you when I created you or not? So I did. I gave you wisdom, rationale, distinction of Good and Bad. Now live ur life freely with happiness. Tell me did u feel right when giving pain to others?"

Man:" Not at all, but while giving pain to others, I was thinking of myself as fighting being your soldier, so that those who don't believe in you are eliminated and your kingdom should be everywhere. "

God:" When I alone is the creator, father and master of whole infinite universe of Billions of galaxies  stars, planets, then where is the question of wars & kingdoms on specks of planets to be won and lost?

Man: "Then plz tell me, what is there at all after death?"

God:" Nothing! Death is the end, period."

 
Man:"Nothing after death? Then what's the objective of living the life?"

God: "The only objective of the life is to live this beautiful wonderful life with joy, happiness and bliss. What could be a greater objective!"

Man: "OoooooKkkkkkk! Now I see, but Plz tell me. All these religions, do they all worship you actually?"

God: "Only those worship me who love all humans, animals, beings, things i.e. all my children."

Man : "Is this form your true form?"
God: "Whatever you form u see me in your mind and imagination that is my form. Otherwise all animals, things, you yourself are my forms. Why should I need a form like a human or why should that only be my form."

Man:"Lord, if there is no Heaven or Hell, where do u live? What is this place?"

God: " I am everywhere. In each and every living being and thing, in every particle. And this place here where we are talking is in your own mind."

Man: "Then can I talk to you anytime?"
God: "Why not? Whenever u in a peaceful state ask your mind a question, you will get my answer too."

Man: "God then isnt it wrong that People are fighting and slaughtering  each other over difference in Belifs, religions, scriptures etc? Why don't u do something?"

God:" I already did. I gave everyone wisdom and thinking capability. Do they use it? They simply follow whatever they see their parents, elders, peers doing. Why don't they apply their own minds to what they are told. "

Man:" Then how come u talked to me today then?"
God:" Because u had conflicts and grave doubts about what you were doing. That's why I am asking your question from inside your own mind. "

Man:" Now I get it. Now if I go back, I tell spread your message to everyone, all my life. "

God :" No. You didn't get it even now. Don't live and do things for me. Live for urself with joy. Love others, love the world, love the life, love urself. Not for me but because it feels Good. "

Man:" Oh! Now I see it. Wonderful is your creation."

He bowed in deference. When he rose there was no one around. It was dark. He had a feeling of falling, falling continuously for long, then he passed out.

When he again opened his eyes, this time he found himself in an ICU of an hospital. His wife, his kids had gathered around him. His family was crying as well as smiling.

They told him, he had an accident an dhis heart had stopped. Doctors declared him dead and were going to keep him in the morgue when suddenly there was a spasm in his body and his breath returned.
All were taking it as a God's Miracle.

He smiled and embraced his family.

When coming out of the hospital he saw an old man cleaning the stairs. The old man smiled at him and went on with his work.

Life is a Fugu Fish!

Life is like a Fugu fish!

Living the life is much like eating the Fugu fish.

The Fugu fish is most delicious yet very vey poisonous. The poison is said to be 1000 times deadlier than Cynide.

In Japan, chefs go through 2-3 years of apprenticeship and training to learn cooking of Fugu fish. They learn the location and technique of poisonous portions. Finally they go through a test and become a licenced Fugu Chef.

Similarly life has many hazards and is also full of deadly and painful poisons.

To survive the life happily one should know how to avoid partaking the poison and enjoy the delicious bits.

The poisonous parts are poor habits leading to ill physical and mental health, burdens of guilts, obsessions, grievances etc. The delicious parts are compassion, forgiveness, contentment, good health and reconciliation to oneself and the universe in general.

Enjoy the Fugu that life is ! Cheerio!
-Amit

Our Choice to be Happy!

"What happens to us is seldom our choice, but how we take those events is always our choice!"

Who Has the Key to My Happiness!

Many a times when we are feeling hurt or sad, we blame others around us, our near and dear ones like spouses, siblings, parents, children, friends for it. Sometimes we blame the fate as well as the God too. Sometimes we blame ourselves also.

What is the secret of happiness?
The secret is that happiness and its key to your happiness lies in the cupboard of a particular person, you!
Nobody else, however close, can make a person happy for all times.

We must know weaknesses of our own mind and tackle them one by one to be truly free from all pain, suffering, misery, fears and all.

All pain is caused by our illusions of:

Ownership whether materials or persons,

Control over things and people,

Our actions not being in sync with nature of our body, other events, the nature itself,

Permanence of life, beauty, strength and property,

Others being responsible for our own happiness,

We can craft the fate of our near and dear ones,

And our long term plans.

What happens to me is seldom my choice.
How I take it, is always my choice. I have options of ignoring, focussing on the good part, forgetting and forgiving . We also have option of freeing and externalizing our mind.

The best option we have is to turn every situation to our own advantage by taking action in sync with nature of things ie the path of Tao.

Know your own mind, follow the Tao and find key to our own happiness.

"Blinders that we wear!"

Ignorance of is the cause of all sufferings of all sorts. Ignorance of true nature of self, others, phenomenon and nature itself leads to wrong perception, wrong judgements and wrong actions leading ti failures and miseries.

When one is finally able to percieve the reality, he realizes how since childhood he has been wearing so many blinders.

The biggest blinders are,
Greed,
Ego,
Anger,
Superiority,
Self righteousness,
Wrong perception of having knowledge,
Prejudice,
Judgements,
Attachment and Aversion.

For Happiness and true freedom, let us start dropping the blinders one by one.

Good luck!

"How I transformed the Universe!"

Approx 1 year ago I stumbled on a hidden way to transform the universe completely and then I implemented the method to the universe, my universe to be precise, but then, there is only one universe that exist for me which exists in my mind and my perception and the same is true for everyone.

One year back I knew so many nasty, egotistical, unpleasant, angry, touchy disrespectful people. Every where I went I could not avoid these inconsiderate, impatient, irritable, and unfriendly  people.

I used to suffer through frequent spells of anger, disappointment, disillusionment and negativity due to these people around me. For me it was a highly negative, hopeless universe.

Then, I found the way.

It was through a magic mirror. It allowed me to see into myself, my own mind, my own thoughts. When I looked at my own thoughts and my own life as a neutral observer, I found that most of the time it was I, who was being egotist, touchy, angry, irritable, unfriendly and all. While I was having a negative perception of people I knew, they were also getting the same perception of me due to my own behavior which modified their behavior to me. It was an infinite action-reaction-rereaction loop.

Basically all the negativity was being generated inside me. I, as the source, was spreading around me the negativity and unhappiness, which was being reflected to me from every corner, multiplied mnay times.

So, I found, this was wrong with my universe.

I went on to study people very closely. To, my surprise, I found that people are not much different from each other. Same dreams, aspirations, same fears, insecurities,  same conditioning by society. Inside,  we were almost the same.

Only problem,  we had two sets of rules. One for us and the next for others. That is what was causing almost all resentment. Example:My fault could be an innocent mistake, while other's fault would be a mischief.

This was the root of almost all discord, whether between life partners, inside family esp the Mother in law- Daughter in law,  colleagues, neighbours and so on

Another simple Example :
If I forget a birthday, it was an honest forgetfulness, but if the other forgets its lack of care. Thousands of other examples.

Now, I started work on transforming my self from within by,
1. I took my anger as my serious disease and found it to be originating from an unhealthy body with less oxygen, water, nutrition and sleep. The treatment of these deficiencies took care of half the anger.
2. Forgiving everyone: Same rules, same benefits that i keep for me extended to others also, of being human, making mistakes, not knowing better and so on.

Results immediate and very amazing.

A Fresh start of life. Being friendly and considerate, the wonderful response that I received from everywhere, removed the whatever remaining anger within me.

Now.

The world, I, found to be a completely different one,  a transformed one. Everywhere I went, I found, good friendly people. Some had the goodness a bit deep, sometimes unknown to themselves, but a true friendly, compassionate approach could bring it out very soon. Now I could categorize all the people I knew in two categories- friends and friends to be.

Such a lovely world.

The transformation of the Universe was a life chaging transformation that started with transforming myself.

Transform the universe, start today!

The first person you should forgive!

The first person you should forgive!

Forgiveness is the key to a mentally and physically healthy life, the peace of mind and the true happiness.

So,how, where and with whom we begin this process of forgiveness!

There is a person,who matters most to every one of us. Most of our grievances, complaints and conflicts are against that particular person. Therefore, resolving our issuing with him is most important to us and should be our beginning.

Who is he?

That person is the self.
Yes our own self, our own personality. Astonishing, but deep inside our minds we blame, dislike, sometimes even almost hate our own persona for past words actions or lack of actions, bad choices that we made or for our weaknesses and  even our looks and figure.
There might not be a single person who looks in a mirror without finding faults with himself. It maybe, the blemishes, the baldness,  the complexion or the love handles etc. Beauty is what mostly we all are most insecure about.

Then comes the guilt box in the mind.
In the conscious and the subconscious mind there is a ginormous guilt box. It stores each and every mistake, blunder and folly from the beginning of your memory and even beyond.
" I was a fool to do this"
"why the hell did i /did not do this/that" and whole lot of stuff like this. This guilt box is a one way route. What goes in, stays in. These guilts,like seeds, while buried inside the mind give rise to compliactions, fears, insecurities, latent anger, dissatisfaction, obsessions and so on.
These guilts reflect in our dreams, thoughts and actions. These creatures given birth by the guilts completely ravage our Garden of Eden, a mind of happiness that we started our life with, as a child.

Start immediately forgiveing yourself.

Like yourself, your blemishes, your scars, your baldness your love handles puny structure, your dark complexion, whatever it be, that is what you are, that is how you are! You are good, you are beautiful, as beautiful as one can be. Accept yourself, love your own persona. If you do not like yourself, who else would ever will. You were made by the same God and he loves his evey child.

Also a mind at peace is a smiling face and a smiling honest face is a very beautiful face.

Forgive your own actions of past, each and every.
Tell yourself that I did that because that time i thought like that. I did not know any better. What has happened, has happened. No fault of mine, but of situation and my reactions. Maybe it was better this way. Now I know better.

Forgive yourself by all the above means. Feel good with yourself. Like and love yourself.

You matters most to you. So be affectionate towards you. Think of yourself not with anger, remorse, dissatisfaction or disappointment, but with love and appreciation.

This path leads to the way of forgiving others and then to the one true happiness, bliss, the purpose of our lives.

God Bless! Have inner peace! Be happy!

Be Selfish, Forgive!

You are unhappy coz you are stressed,

you are actually stressed coz you can not sleep,

you can not sleep, coz your thoughts keep you alive at 1am,

you have thought of painful past and fearful future coz you have bad people in your life,

you have bad people in life coz you see them as evil beings and not humans. Humans who have weakness and humans who err sometimes, humans who give way to emotions and impulses and weaknesses, just like you my friend, humans who did not have somebody to teach them to be better.

you are unhappy because you have not forgiven them. Forgive them from heart. See them yourself in your mind as friends and see yourself embracing them. Forgive all beings on earth, past or present. Forgive and see your world changing to a world of friends, a happier world, guaranteed! Forgive because it is for your own happiness. Forgive beacuse it will make your heart light. Forgive to sleep soundly. Forgive to be happy. Forgive as an utmost selfish act. Tell yourself that you are not trying to be a great man but doing it as a selfish act.

Be selfish,  Forgive!

Being right is the problem!

The biggest problem today is that everyboy thinks that he is right.
Today, there is conflict everywhere. In every home, between the husband and the wive, the Mother-in-law and the Daughter-in-law, the parents and the child, between neighbors, between colleagues at work, between the boss and the subordinate, between, between religions, between sects of the same religion, between teachers of the sect, between followers of the same teacher, enough stress and conflict is around to keep the world aflame for another thousand years. Labour-conservative, Republican-Democrats, capitalist-socialist, sociaist-Communist, Marxist-Maoist, Al qaida- Taliban, taliban- Isis, catholic-Protestant, Shia-sunni, so on and so on. The list might not be over till the world is over. In fact, what I find is that probably no two people in the whole of the world agree on everything. Everybody builts for him a completely uniqe set of believes of life and then for him it is the only set of believes that can be right because so and so and so on. Simultaneously, every other belief of the rest of the humanity is incorrect and therefore needs to be corrected by conversion or elimination and this is the root of every conflict in each home, block, town, state or nation or the entire world.
Dear friends we need to take it easy a little bit. Let us assume that while I am right, the other fellow is right too from his point of view. While I am hurt by his behavior, probably he also thinks himself a victim of my own behavior and this so often is true that one would be surprised. If i find everybody quarreling with me, it might be me who is actually quarrelsome. If I find everyone cold towards me, it might be me who actually seems cold to them.
The way back to peace, tranquility and happiness starts with toletance, with accepting that there can be more ways than one to life, success, career, happiness,  God and so on. This simple step will lead you to eradicate automatically the grudges that we hold towards almost everyone. Tolerance leads to reconciliation, which leads to acceptence, which leads to peace and harmon, which leads to Happiness.
Friends, this is the only life we got.This day hour and minute will never come again. Lets start living life here and now. Let us drop all hallucinations of being the the only right person, spread our hand to others and actually start living our lives.
I am right! You are right! We all are right in our own ways and still wrong in some other ways. Others are imperfect, but so am I and probably this is the part and parcel of being a Human. I think the great concept of Humanity can easily be summarised as "Co-acceptance, co- existence, co-operation Co- development and co-happiness"

The same is described in the ancient wisdom of this sanskrit verse.
"Sarvey Sukhina santu, sarvey santu niramayah, sarvey bhadrani pashyantu, ma kashchit dukhbhag bhavet"-
May all be happy, may all be healthy, may all percieve others in a good way, may nobody ever be sad.

And, therfore, from today, "Everyone is right!"

The Wonder of Words

"Word"

The most powerful Force, The most dangerous Weapon, the most ravishing of all beauties, the body of all creativity, the connection of love, all of this in one, and much much more, is a "Word".

It is said that the world was created from nothingness by a word of God, "Be!". 

Words are like seeds. They enter the mind, they hold the ground of the mind-space,and mind it, this is the most fertile of all grounds,of unimaginable scope. The words multiply in the mind,develop new ideas,culminate into actions and then scatter to other minds by word of mouth,written or spoken. then keep infecting and spreading for centuries and millenniums. Wonderful, it is as if the words have a life of their own, like a living microscopic organism, like a virus! As if, they are immortal and they use the minds of persons as carriers. 

Religions, Ideologies of Communism,socialism, individualism, revolutions, even the fights for freedom, most of them began with a set of words, some book, some sermon, some speech at some time. In fact, the present science, technology, philosophy all of this said to be evolved out of "Logic" as discoursed by Aristotle and Socrates. These powerful set of words, were so forceful of nature, so as to change the whole world scenario for millenia to come.

Read a novel and you find the words drawing a picture of characters and scenarios in your mind. You find the words also making you laugh, giving shocks, making you cry, playing with the strings of your emotions. The non fiction books keeping you awake at night,thinking, wondering, imagining, debating and all. A love song takes you to another time and place, a harsh word brings you to tears,a one liner splits you in laughter.A proposal of three words brings two souls together for life, a word of "Talaaq" spoken three times breaks the journey of a lifetime. 

This is the magical wonder of the "Words".

This immense power can be harnessed by us for the betterment for our lives, our families and the whole world. let us see how.

Words being so mighty forces in human relations and human issues,should be used only sparingly without pre-thought over them. A thoughtless action is called a reaction,while a thoughtful action is called a response. So, a thought is all that makes the difference, and should be used before speech,i,e, before opening the mouth, always engage the mind in gear. This, while being a well known rule is also the most violated rule in our lives, and therefore I need to reiterate. 

• Spread positivism and negate the negativism: Removing the words of Never, impossible, bad, etc from language and our mind. Replace them by difficult, needs improvement etc. this will change your outlook and strengthen your relations. Hardly anything is really bad. Since nobody and nothing is perfect in this world, things should be seen in a relative perspective. Even a rickety stool is better than a two legged one, and a two legged stool might be better than having none at all. Let us develop this approach of seeing things in a positive way, which then will reflect in your language also.
• Instead of rejecting some idea or some proposal altogether, one should think and speak on the lines, that "the idea may be ok, however these and these  issues might come up.
• Similarly for a leader, the use of words should be of positive, deterministic, absolute, committed nature.  Use of words, such as "us", "let us", "why not" etc also make a hell lot of difference in connecting with people.
• For a negotiation of all types, which we have to undergo many times a day, with friends, with family,relatives, colleagues, staff and all the words should not be rigid and closed but open and flexible a way out and for a "win-win" situation.
• There is always a high risk of the words being spoken taken in a different meaning, a different context, a different emotion and this defeats the purpose of the communication itself and is harmful. Therefore the words should be used, while keeping the person(s) in mind and their state of mind and choice of words should be done carefully. There is a joke, where the teeth complain to the tongue that it you who makes mischief,but it is who get broken in return.In fact an old hindi proverb say, " It is your tongue that gets you the sweets, but it can also gets u beaten up."

In short, our policy should be to, "Speak less, speak good, speak with thought!" ,and that should serve the purpose. Raheem has also said," Aise Bani Boliye ,man ka aapa khoye, apna man sheetal kare, auron ko sukh hoye.",i,e, use your words always in a way to give peace and happiness to you and others.

I hope this above set of words, help you in improving your life and your world.

The first day outside the prison!

Today is the first day i really feel alive,
almost the same as i felt when i was maybe four or five,

i have been released out of my prison today ,
after spending my whole life in a jail locked away,

it was a house of misery and pain,
outside the jail, here i find all the happiness again,

as i grew up in the jail, i knew of no other place,
the scale, the wonders of world i knew not a trace,

now i leave my fatigue, my old age back there,
as i discover the child in me here,

full of pain, anger, sorrow was it inside the jail,
as each and every misery of life resided in that hell,

do u know the jail i have been telling u about,
its the smallest ever cell, a dome of nine inch about,

friends, its our own mind and nowhere else,
and we life the whole life trapped in our own mind space,

of the life we dont see the beauty or the wonder,
as inside the mind we keep counting every fault and every blunder,

do you know where to find the sorrow of any sort,
yes no where else only inside the mind's fort,

all fears of future, all the sorrow in the past
they live and multiply in our mind till the life itself last,

chained by your thought and held by fears as bars,
can u recall the last time you ever saw the sky or the stars,

to find happiness and to live you must realize,
stop brooding and brooding, let your awareness externalize,

see the trees, the butterfly, the moon and sun,
be the child again and start having fun,

children by nature are highly aware,
thats what keep them smiling everywhere,

a soldier, a singer, a surgeon, a racer or a player,
losing awareness can finish them,right then and there,

All happiness and every sucess, material or otherwise,
are outside the mind, dear, step out and externalize!

How to be Sad and Miserable!

The shortest way to be sad, miserable, angry, disaatisfied, depressed, melancholy and poor health:

1. Trust no one. Doubt the motive behind every action and every word of every friend, relative or everyone.

2. Have a very good memory. Remember very clearly every sad moment, each loss, each defeat and every painful moment. Remember every hurting action and word of every one very clearly.

3. Have an utmost negative, pessimistic, and hopeless outlook of future.

4. Be very rigid in your beliefs and believe only your beliefs, thoughts and way of life to be true and right.

5. Always justify your action to be flawless and question the motive of others, when in contradiction.

6. Never extend the first step in relationships. Only react as per your perception of others actions.

7. Never Forgive, never forget.

The way to Bliss:
Simply do none of the above!

Love is God!

Love is not only the happiness and joy of life but Love is the path to God also.
The road to God goes through the steps of Query, doubt, knowledge, assimilation and application of this knowledge with meditation for instance, Achieving Awareness of the true nature of the life, the world and God and then comes the enlightenment leading to God.

But, On this path, our brain and thinking can only take us upto the level of knowledge only and no further! The thinking brain can look  but it will not see or percieve.

After that level only the heart can be the guide, to the hidden path of Love.

God and his spirit is everywhere in this world, all around us and in fact inside us also. Every Human, animal or particle us hiding the divine glow inside itself and this cloak of invisibility of is called 'Maya' or Ignorance.
Ishvasyopnishad says that all that is visible and all that is invisible is Supreme God himself. Also it says that "The enlightened is the one who sees all in God and God in all."

In an anecdote, Once when Guru Nanak Dev ji was sleeping in Holy Mecca with his feet towards the Kaaba, he was reprimanded by somebody for keeping his feet towards the "Home of God". He expressed his tiredness and requested the person to kindly move his feet towards the direction where God did not reside. When the angry person started moving his feet he was amazed to see that whatever direction he moved he would see Kaabasharif in front of him. God was residing everywhere, and he was blessed to see it.

Our God, whom we try to love with all our hearts is with us and inside us all the time, yet we, the innocent children in our ignorance can not see him. Our reliance on our physical eyed fail us. We search him in temples and churches. We go to far away places for pilgrimage. We go to Masters, Gurus and Babas. Finally we find him, if we are successful, in our hearts. We find him in ourselves, in our parents and family, in our neighbours, in all humans, in all living beings and in all the non living as well and then is our journey to our dear eternal home completed.
When we see God in all humans, it is not just a statement but acceptance of all, any caste, creed, color, age, gender or wealth as our dear ones. When the enlightened sees into the eyes of any person he sees the spirit of God hiding in those ignorant eyes. He treats all the Living with same compassion as with his beloved.

The sufis and fakirs have realized this for a very long time and in a story, once  a fakir was sharing a bread with a dog. When somebody asked him why he behaving so absurdly, he was answered by the fakir that, " The  God and The God are sharing The God, why are you asking O God."
This is the true path to God and whatever form we worship our God in and whatever temple or church we go to, let us first love ourselves, our parents and family also. Let us embrace our neighbors and all others with the same compassion. Has anybody ever seen any fault or ugliness in his beloved, his mother or his child. Love sees only the good and that is why Love is the beauty of life. Yes, it is not easy and yes, it will not happen any time soon. But, it is the true path, it will happen gradually and surely and life will be much more beautiful on this path.
The person who needs the most compassion  from you first is nobody else but yourself. Forgive yourself for past errors and all, accept and appreciate yourself the way God has made you and look at yourself with the same compassion. Then let us do the same with the family, the neighbours, the acquaintances and the strangers, whoever they be. What is the surprise is that the Love spread by you is also returned to you by others and the only way of getting Loved has always been by Giving the  love.
Since we already love our family, the first person of non-family encountered to us is our neighbour and maybe that why God askes us to "Love our neighbours" as that is the first step to loving all living beings.

This is the way to have a happy life and build up a Beautiful and Happy world brick by brick and also the path to our beloved God.
The path of Love.

The Overheated Chip !

In many ways the human mind and brain can be compared to the computer os and the hardware.
When a child is born, he is born with minimal capabilities and information. He knows just to breath and to partake of his food, i.e. milk as per gods design. He can not see. He can not control the limbs, other organs or the natural needs. He can hear and the only response he has is the  crying. Crying of a child can be for 13 different reasons from hunger, pain, cold, hot in short anything abnormal.
Then in a few weeks, the device drivers of the optical, audio and the motor units start getting installed. Then starts a massive data uptake, compilation, linking and summary of the information collected continuously of all sense organs.
Then more complex programs of speech, identification etc are loaded and in a few months a fully loaded supercomp is running at full speed.
At the twilight, the reverse happens. Memory blocks start getting corrupted. Drivers fail. Motor mechanisms also become slow and unsteady and so on.

What happens in between?
In the period of youth and afterwards when the hardware is finally set up, it can not develop or repair any more but starts getting corrupted block afte block.
Also, if one could see inside the task manager of an adult human, he would find at least 20 programs running on the front end and a hundred in the background. Remember, how Windows start shaking and hanging at just 50 programs. These programs include the boss, the colleagues, the life partner, kids, school, promotion, house, emi, tax, investment, neighbors, friends, relatives, nation, politics, cricket, vacation, bills, past, present, future and so on. Many of these background programs take over in idle time i.e. sleep in shape of dreams. That is why dreams show us what is running undreneath the conscious mind and are called "Golden road to the subconscious." or something like that.
So we are looking here at a chip multitasking and severely overloaded and overclocked. The result is obvious, burning out if the chip at a fast rate and reduced life, besides reduced efficiency coz any productive work like your ppt would take forever.
So what to do to save ourselves from burning out early as well as fatal health repercursions and also to improve our efficiency and thereby our success.
Easy, the same as tweak our comp.
First, unwanted programs running in the background need to be terminated. Most important of them are memories of past and 10-20 year plans of future. The paat is already dead and the future will be allright if you do well in the present. Second is the worrying part. Worrying a lot doesnt help in solution. After that, things have to be let go, upon the trust in God, destiny as well as the confidence in oneself. We will tackle it when it happens. You can not plan every move and response in life. Let go the illusion of being in control and take it easy a bit. Worrying 24 hours will not help more than worrying 8 hours or so. What will help is, relaxing a bit and tackle the issue again after a while. A relaxed and calm mind can tackle almost all situations.
To these ends most helpful is meditation. It helps in calming the mind, relaxing, clearing, improving focus, summarizing and finding hidden solution in peripheral vision. With a bit of physical exercise or breathing exercise results can be wonderful.
Getting good 8 hours comfortable  sleep is most essential as a necessity. The REM sleep of 2 hours is the basic requirement for repair and maintenance of body and mind. The Body and mind are our most vital equipment, which has no upgradation, replacement and sometimes no repair as well. Therefore let us not burn them out and give sufficient cooling. Sleep also helps in defragging the mind and is almost a meditation. That is why the most wonderful ideas are born in early sleep or just at the time of awakening.

So friends lets handle the hardware and software with a bit of love and care and you will love the long and wonderful life you will have and yes without any error mesaages.

The Undying Hunger !

    He was hungry. He was puzzled too. He had been hungry as far as he could remember. Every morning he woke up with the hunger. He spent the whole day in consuming. When he was not consuming, either he was working so that he could have more or thinking how to work to have more.
   Now he had spent bigger part of his life. He had consumed more than he even himself hoped to. Today he was consuming 10 times more than he was 10 years back.
Yet, whenever he was alone, when he was away from those consuming less, he was hit by the hunger pangs.
The hunger would never leave him.
Today, after a long time, maybe for the first time, he found himself brooding. He was thinking.
He knew others who were consuming more, but if they were consuming even more every day, that meant their hunger was getting stronger every day instead of dying.
He could not think of anyone, whether consuming less or more,  who was not living for consuming rather than consuming for living.
Oh! Would this Hunger never never die! Would he finally die Hungry!

He spent next month or so in such a brooding mindset.
Finally, one day he decided not to go and spend the whole day for consuming. He would consume only as little, as would keep him alive and working. Then he would see what happens. What was the loss in trying a different approach.
After the sundown, he summarised that it was a day better spent. He was feeling less hungry than he usually did. He was feeling lighter. He slept easily too. He continued it for the next fortnight or so and found that his life had changed completely, for good.
He smiled  a lot more and was afraid a lot less, as there was a lot lesser to lose. He thought more and did lesser but with better results. He could do a lot more with his newly found spare time. He could walk down the glade, sit under the tree watching butterflies and the clouds.
He was happier.
Unknown to himself, he had found his key to the door of the road to paradise.

This road was called by the wise as 'Tao' and the key was known as 'Contentment.'

As per the enlightened, it is the cycle of spiritual evolution. First desires, then actions to fulfill these desires, then more desires, then more actions, and so on till the person realizes the undying nature of desires, then the urge to be free from the undying desires, then questions, then answers, then doubts, then knowledge and finally the Enlightenment.
Unknown to him, this cycle was going on, the seeds in his mind were sprouting, the light was growing. What he knew was that he was Happy.
After all, he knew that hunger was like a fire which expands with more wood and decreases with less.
He knew how to defeat the hunger and be happy.

He knew that hunger could die too!

Why The world is without Peace!

The world is full of wars, battles and skirmishes going on. Wars have been going on since yime immemorial with hardly any respite ever. Our ancient forefathers also learned to make weapons and hurt others before they even learned to even write. Even today, battles are raging in the name of nations, religions, sects of same religions,  beliefs, property, language, caste, racism, capitalism, socialism etc. In fact such low scale warfare has costed more casualities than the larger theater warfare.
The smallest scale warfare is going in our own city, colony or the workplace too in form of conflicts and standoffs.
Well, it was bound to occur. How can the world be at peace, when the individual is not at peace. Two disturbed persons cant be at peace with each other.
After all, peace can not be purchased or received. It comes from the same place the disturbances come from, the mind itself!
The attempt for world peace begins actually only when I find the way to my own peace. The route is always the same- Tolerance, no judgement, forgiving and forgetting.
I first learn to be happy and peaceful with my own self and that is the hardest part. I have to accept myself as I actually am. the first person who needs forgiveness, love and compassion from me is nobody else myself.
The first mistakes to be forgotten should be my own. Then the same process with friends and family, than the neighbors and colleagues, than the colony and so on.
Peace is also contagious. If you dont believe try smiling at others. Most of your smilea will bw reciprocated immediately and do not worry, the other smiles have also done thier job as light of  glowworms in the night of misery of life of yourself as well as others and So will begin the journey of peace. Only a mind truly at peace with itself will initiate the transformation.

World peace will begin only when I, you and others, we all will learn to be at peace.

Eliminating my enemies!

I had made many enemies. Well everyone does, especially those who are doing good. Some were at my workplace, some in my colony and Some in the relations as well. All of them wanted to see my downfall. Some of them, my greatest enemies, wanted to see my and my name completely destroyed. I had to be on my own guard to protect myself from their machinaction and evil designs. It was becoming more and more difficult to survive and be at peace. Thoughts of them used to rule in my mind before I slept and after I awoke. Sometimes thier evil presence ruined my dreams too.
Then i met somebody, somebody who taught me how to finish my enemies instead. I learnt an easy and successful way to eliminate my enemies.
The way was very simple.
I developed friendship with them. It is better to win a friend than to destroy an enemy and the best way to be peace.
I was eliminating enmity instead of enemies and to have your enemy shed his enmity, it was me who had to do it first.
First of all I accepted them as other humans who had the common human failures. They were as prone to ego, self righteous approach, the folley of judging others as was I. They also misinterpreted words and attached motived to words or actions. You know, words are the worst form of communication possible. Every word, every phrase, every reference and example, every rise and fall in tones has separate intonations for separate persons.
In fact, what we hear in a sentence is what we actually think , the speaker likely to say. Shockingly, as soon as the speaker opens his mouth, we start forming our own version of what he is going to say, what he is saying and what he has said. Also, the same sentence has separate meaning and motive for us for separate speakers. Our own words are always wise and words of those we have faith in, such as our Guru, are gospel truths. However same sentences if spoken our enemies or considered lesser to us, we find them bookish, stupid or sometimes superficial or show off. This means than words have no fixed meaning for us and hence there is a hell lot of possibility of misunderstandings and confusions. Look around, such incidences happen on dozens a day basis, because we do't understand each other or keep judging others continuously with every word or action and the motives we attach to both of them. Even great wars like Mahabharat started with some thoughtless statements that were taken too seriously. Even the biggest conflicts in our family start with some misunderstood words.
Main reason we make enemies is because of the miscommunication and or the lack of communication.
Lack of communication can create fences between not only neighbors, colleagues or friends but also destroy completely the love between relatives and worst between a couple. The marriage counsellors, what do they do if not to emcourage the couple to have a conversation. Falling in Love was easiest, but loving each other enough to forgive them is the hardest part. This Great wall of silence can be so intimidating that nobody even dares to try to speak the first word.
We think that "Why should I say sorry or start the talk. It was I who was right. It was I who was hurt.". Funny! Everybody thinks himself right and considers himself the victim. It is absurd. In arguments humans are not right or wrong, it is the intolerance, the misunderstanding and most imprortant double standards what is wrong.
A land lord wants his tenant to behave differently than he used to do as  a tenant. A subordinates wants his boss to be less bossy than he he himself actually is. A mother in law finds the same behavior and action of the daughter in law objectionable ,which were correct when shes was the daughter in law. A father considers his fashionable son as misguided while the father himself followed the dressing of the movie stars of his own times. This is what we humans are prone to and therefore forgive other for being so.
This intolerance, self righteousness, the miscommunication and the lack of communication are the reason of maximum conflicts. We think the other is after us so we also should be after him.

Surprisingly, the older a conflict is , the bigger the problem is, the easier it is to be resolved also. All that is needed is the courage to take the first step to walk the distance, extend the first hand or speak the first word. Sometimes a "Hi!" will demolish the wall of silence and enmity faster than the Joshuah's trumpet and the walls of Jericho in the biblicale tale. Sitting down and talking it over can resolve most of the issues of the world. The problem is the lack of courage to initiate dialogue. I have seen years of conflict of groups of people resolving after a 30 minute chat. What is funny that sometimes the actual root of conflict was so miniscule and sometimes out of the memory to.
Another advice, " A good memory is a curse. Forgetfullnes is divine."
Why cherish the trash of the worst experience of our life in the mind! Do we keep broke glassware or torn shoes in the cupboard? Keep the mind also adorned with the brightest flowers of great memories and optimism just like your drawing room.
Also, never never ever be afraid to initiate the resoultion. Making the first call is not insulting but earns honour. It does not show weakness, it displays strength. It is not in any way inferior. Also you are doing it more for your own happiness and peace than for others.

So, when I developed the courage to walk the first step and shake hands, sit down to talk and extend arms to embrace my enemy, to forgive them for being what I also am like sometimes, that was the day I started eliminating my enemies.

Now I can't think of any existing enemies. I have eliminated all of them, by making them Friends.