Being right is the problem!

The biggest problem today is that everyboy thinks that he is right.
Today, there is conflict everywhere. In every home, between the husband and the wive, the Mother-in-law and the Daughter-in-law, the parents and the child, between neighbors, between colleagues at work, between the boss and the subordinate, between, between religions, between sects of the same religion, between teachers of the sect, between followers of the same teacher, enough stress and conflict is around to keep the world aflame for another thousand years. Labour-conservative, Republican-Democrats, capitalist-socialist, sociaist-Communist, Marxist-Maoist, Al qaida- Taliban, taliban- Isis, catholic-Protestant, Shia-sunni, so on and so on. The list might not be over till the world is over. In fact, what I find is that probably no two people in the whole of the world agree on everything. Everybody builts for him a completely uniqe set of believes of life and then for him it is the only set of believes that can be right because so and so and so on. Simultaneously, every other belief of the rest of the humanity is incorrect and therefore needs to be corrected by conversion or elimination and this is the root of every conflict in each home, block, town, state or nation or the entire world.
Dear friends we need to take it easy a little bit. Let us assume that while I am right, the other fellow is right too from his point of view. While I am hurt by his behavior, probably he also thinks himself a victim of my own behavior and this so often is true that one would be surprised. If i find everybody quarreling with me, it might be me who is actually quarrelsome. If I find everyone cold towards me, it might be me who actually seems cold to them.
The way back to peace, tranquility and happiness starts with toletance, with accepting that there can be more ways than one to life, success, career, happiness,  God and so on. This simple step will lead you to eradicate automatically the grudges that we hold towards almost everyone. Tolerance leads to reconciliation, which leads to acceptence, which leads to peace and harmon, which leads to Happiness.
Friends, this is the only life we got.This day hour and minute will never come again. Lets start living life here and now. Let us drop all hallucinations of being the the only right person, spread our hand to others and actually start living our lives.
I am right! You are right! We all are right in our own ways and still wrong in some other ways. Others are imperfect, but so am I and probably this is the part and parcel of being a Human. I think the great concept of Humanity can easily be summarised as "Co-acceptance, co- existence, co-operation Co- development and co-happiness"

The same is described in the ancient wisdom of this sanskrit verse.
"Sarvey Sukhina santu, sarvey santu niramayah, sarvey bhadrani pashyantu, ma kashchit dukhbhag bhavet"-
May all be happy, may all be healthy, may all percieve others in a good way, may nobody ever be sad.

And, therfore, from today, "Everyone is right!"

The Wonder of Words

"Word"

The most powerful Force, The most dangerous Weapon, the most ravishing of all beauties, the body of all creativity, the connection of love, all of this in one, and much much more, is a "Word".

It is said that the world was created from nothingness by a word of God, "Be!". 

Words are like seeds. They enter the mind, they hold the ground of the mind-space,and mind it, this is the most fertile of all grounds,of unimaginable scope. The words multiply in the mind,develop new ideas,culminate into actions and then scatter to other minds by word of mouth,written or spoken. then keep infecting and spreading for centuries and millenniums. Wonderful, it is as if the words have a life of their own, like a living microscopic organism, like a virus! As if, they are immortal and they use the minds of persons as carriers. 

Religions, Ideologies of Communism,socialism, individualism, revolutions, even the fights for freedom, most of them began with a set of words, some book, some sermon, some speech at some time. In fact, the present science, technology, philosophy all of this said to be evolved out of "Logic" as discoursed by Aristotle and Socrates. These powerful set of words, were so forceful of nature, so as to change the whole world scenario for millenia to come.

Read a novel and you find the words drawing a picture of characters and scenarios in your mind. You find the words also making you laugh, giving shocks, making you cry, playing with the strings of your emotions. The non fiction books keeping you awake at night,thinking, wondering, imagining, debating and all. A love song takes you to another time and place, a harsh word brings you to tears,a one liner splits you in laughter.A proposal of three words brings two souls together for life, a word of "Talaaq" spoken three times breaks the journey of a lifetime. 

This is the magical wonder of the "Words".

This immense power can be harnessed by us for the betterment for our lives, our families and the whole world. let us see how.

Words being so mighty forces in human relations and human issues,should be used only sparingly without pre-thought over them. A thoughtless action is called a reaction,while a thoughtful action is called a response. So, a thought is all that makes the difference, and should be used before speech,i,e, before opening the mouth, always engage the mind in gear. This, while being a well known rule is also the most violated rule in our lives, and therefore I need to reiterate. 

• Spread positivism and negate the negativism: Removing the words of Never, impossible, bad, etc from language and our mind. Replace them by difficult, needs improvement etc. this will change your outlook and strengthen your relations. Hardly anything is really bad. Since nobody and nothing is perfect in this world, things should be seen in a relative perspective. Even a rickety stool is better than a two legged one, and a two legged stool might be better than having none at all. Let us develop this approach of seeing things in a positive way, which then will reflect in your language also.
• Instead of rejecting some idea or some proposal altogether, one should think and speak on the lines, that "the idea may be ok, however these and these  issues might come up.
• Similarly for a leader, the use of words should be of positive, deterministic, absolute, committed nature.  Use of words, such as "us", "let us", "why not" etc also make a hell lot of difference in connecting with people.
• For a negotiation of all types, which we have to undergo many times a day, with friends, with family,relatives, colleagues, staff and all the words should not be rigid and closed but open and flexible a way out and for a "win-win" situation.
• There is always a high risk of the words being spoken taken in a different meaning, a different context, a different emotion and this defeats the purpose of the communication itself and is harmful. Therefore the words should be used, while keeping the person(s) in mind and their state of mind and choice of words should be done carefully. There is a joke, where the teeth complain to the tongue that it you who makes mischief,but it is who get broken in return.In fact an old hindi proverb say, " It is your tongue that gets you the sweets, but it can also gets u beaten up."

In short, our policy should be to, "Speak less, speak good, speak with thought!" ,and that should serve the purpose. Raheem has also said," Aise Bani Boliye ,man ka aapa khoye, apna man sheetal kare, auron ko sukh hoye.",i,e, use your words always in a way to give peace and happiness to you and others.

I hope this above set of words, help you in improving your life and your world.

Goodbye disease, welcome health! -1

Jeevet Shardah Shatam, I.e. May we see a hundred winters, has been one of the greatest desire of all times. Unfortunately, not only a long life is hard to get, a disease free life is still getting a lot harder nowadays.

Fortunately, there is a way to good health. It is the natural way of the body, the mind and the life. By understanding the fundamentals of the body we can avoid the maximum inflections as well fight the rest in a lot better way.

Who fight the disease, is it the doctor or the medicine. None, it is the body itself, which starts taking care of itself with the first heartbeat in the womb.

The body has a ultra-mega-hyper-super complex machinery and systems of growth, actions, defense and repair. This system working 24/7 saves us from 99% afflictions that go unnoticed. The rest 1% get expressed in the form of sickness. Our Body gets  over 90% of them by itself. The last 10% diseases need serious medications.

I have nothing against doctors. They are mostly doing their job upto the best of their knowledge. It is the medical science itself, which is far from understanding the body as a whole, instead of in tiny bits and pieces as on date.

However, this system while being infinitely complicated, has still very few basics, which I will rightaway list underneath as,

1. Air- While it will be silly to state how no air means death, we also need to understand that less air means slow and early death. We simply do not breath enough while awake. Try to notice self and others for any movement of breathing. You will find none when no physical exertion. Shocking but true, we don't remember to breath. We spend our whole day with a very shallow breath. A short and frequent exhale with a low temperature, is a symptom of a shallow breath. When talking, working on computers or books, playing computer or mobile games are the periods with the shallowest breathing.
It is not a breath but a controlled suffocation, which causes aging, loss of memory, obesity, loss of immunity, slow recovery, a thousand diseases and an early death.

The remedy is very simply, start breathing, whenever you can. Take time outs during day. Remind yourself and start breathing. Here starts the good health.

Best frequency: an extra high breathing rate has the similar bad effect as suffocation, which is known as hyperventilation. The optimum breathing included in ancient texts and modern knowledge is 4-2-4-2, I.e. 4 second inhale, 2 second pause, 4 second exhale, 2 second pause and repeat. There are apps also available on android for this purpose. This allows not only a deep breath but the absorption of oxygen as well. Being approximately is also good enough. When one has a slow breath, 6-3-6-3 should be tried.

Best technique: sad but we forget how to breath when we start speaking. The optimum absorption is achieved by "The complete breathing technique" of yoga. Steps: start inhalation, extend stomach and push diaphragm down, after full extension of stomach, expand chest to extreme, now shoulders will start rising. When saturated, pause 1-2
seconds, now collapse stomach and them contract chest. Even 5 such breaths can rejuvenate one. Don't bother for being accurate, just do and go on doing. Vayu is pran, hence praanvayu.

The Magic of slowness!

Dheere Chalo bandhu, Dheere Chalo re,

Dheere Chalo bandhu, Dheere Chalo re,

Jab Chalo dheere Dheere, aur Dheere Dheere,

Jab kadam chalen dheere,
To badan chale dheere,
Fir saans chale dheere,
Fir nadi chale dheere,
Fir hriday chale dheere,
Fir vichar chalen dheere,
Fir Samay bhi chale dheere,

Fir dhyaan rahe achchha ,
Fir saans chale achchha ,
Fir svasthya rahe achchha ,
Fir man bhi rahe achchha,
Sansaar lage achchha,
Jeevan bhi bane achchha,
Achchha aur bhi achchha.

Bas,

Dheere Chalo bandhu, Dheere Chalo re,

Dheere Chalo bandhu, Dheere Chalo re,

The first day outside the prison!

Today is the first day i really feel alive,
almost the same as i felt when i was maybe four or five,

i have been released out of my prison today ,
after spending my whole life in a jail locked away,

it was a house of misery and pain,
outside the jail, here i find all the happiness again,

as i grew up in the jail, i knew of no other place,
the scale, the wonders of world i knew not a trace,

now i leave my fatigue, my old age back there,
as i discover the child in me here,

full of pain, anger, sorrow was it inside the jail,
as each and every misery of life resided in that hell,

do u know the jail i have been telling u about,
its the smallest ever cell, a dome of nine inch about,

friends, its our own mind and nowhere else,
and we life the whole life trapped in our own mind space,

of the life we dont see the beauty or the wonder,
as inside the mind we keep counting every fault and every blunder,

do you know where to find the sorrow of any sort,
yes no where else only inside the mind's fort,

all fears of future, all the sorrow in the past
they live and multiply in our mind till the life itself last,

chained by your thought and held by fears as bars,
can u recall the last time you ever saw the sky or the stars,

to find happiness and to live you must realize,
stop brooding and brooding, let your awareness externalize,

see the trees, the butterfly, the moon and sun,
be the child again and start having fun,

children by nature are highly aware,
thats what keep them smiling everywhere,

a soldier, a singer, a surgeon, a racer or a player,
losing awareness can finish them,right then and there,

All happiness and every sucess, material or otherwise,
are outside the mind, dear, step out and externalize!

The Jouney of the Soul!

5x1 then 1x5,
Again
5x1 then 1x5,
5x1 then 1x5
........................

Till,
3rd I cn C
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10000000000000000000= 1

How to be Sad and Miserable!

The shortest way to be sad, miserable, angry, disaatisfied, depressed, melancholy and poor health:

1. Trust no one. Doubt the motive behind every action and every word of every friend, relative or everyone.

2. Have a very good memory. Remember very clearly every sad moment, each loss, each defeat and every painful moment. Remember every hurting action and word of every one very clearly.

3. Have an utmost negative, pessimistic, and hopeless outlook of future.

4. Be very rigid in your beliefs and believe only your beliefs, thoughts and way of life to be true and right.

5. Always justify your action to be flawless and question the motive of others, when in contradiction.

6. Never extend the first step in relationships. Only react as per your perception of others actions.

7. Never Forgive, never forget.

The way to Bliss:
Simply do none of the above!

Equillibirium

Balance is the key word. The gate to perfect life.

Equillibirium between extremes of,

1. Obsession and Renunciation,
2. Expenditures and savings,
3. Plannings and actions,
4. Isolation and Interactions,
5. Pleasure and pain,
6. Impulses and thoughts,
7. Rigid beliefs and no beliefs,
8. For children, Excess Love and excess strictness,
9. Excess physical activity and excess mental activity,
10. Excess attchemnt and excess detachment.

And when one finds himself in such a balance, then actually he starts to finds himself!

Enlightenment!

Way to the Enlightment:

1.Closing the one and opening the two & Closing the two to open the Third
2. Closing the five and open the sixth,
3. Silencing the one and listening to 100 Billion,
Finally,
4. Silencing the 100 Billion to hear the One!

Hardly I lived!

Here I lie on my deathbed n my life I  review ,
The End of the life gives you a nice birds eye view,

I had a long life, I am aged seven sevnty,
Still i cant recall a day, when I had time plenty,

From my days as a child, my days of school,
Thought only the big ones had fun, I was a fool,

As I joined the college, my goal was a career,
For years and years, I worked hard as much i could bear,

I joined a job and soon I had married,
Here was some years I was not harried,

Then I joined the race, the race that
Led me to deathbed,
Money, power, respect and to be always ahead,

It was to be a 'Have', and not to be a 'Have not',
This was the real game, but see it I did not,

The best car, the best villa, the best suit, the best gadget,
I burned my life for them, now can only regret,

Now it looks as if the years went in a flash,
My health, my youth, with them I was very rash,

Now though i have stacked property of many a million,
Time, I need most, alas that I have none,

Doctors say I may live months four or five,
You fools, my worries and attachemnts do only keep me alive,

It may all go waste, what all I  had achieve,
Others will soon blow it for fun, I can only now grieve,

Overtimes, weekends, holidays I burnt for carreer,
I made injustice to those I held dear,

My family they missed me on many an evenings,
Just as I miss them, I can feel their yearnings,

Time the only treasure, as a fool I threw away,
Millions that I have, now can't buy me even one more day,

I was young, could enjoy, could dance laugh n sing a lot,
That was my life, the life live i did not,

Family and friends, hobbies and passions,
Weekends, holidays, going on vacations,

These were the days, only worth a counting,
The race ate up the rest, the huge loss is now haunting,

Life is made of years, years made of many such a day,
So Only way to enjoy life, is to enjoy 'Today'.

If only I knew and lived so, now I would not have repented,
Could have been happy a lot more, by being just a little bit contented,

Time and youth, health once lost no one can regain,
Are the real tresures of life, that dont ever come again.

Life would be like pardise, if I knew it before,
Life is the only thing, worth ever living for,
Today is the day, worth ever living for.