Luck? Is there even such a thing?

All of us suffer through misfortunes sometimes or more in our lives.
These event often leave us dejected and some of us often rue our luck, curse our luck or blame our luck for these misfortunes and this despondency may lead some even upto depression.

Is it so? Is there Good Luck or Bad luck? Do some Good or Bad events really decide the way of our lives?

I recall a small zen story.

Once upon a time in a village, a farmer's only horse ran away to the forest, right in the ploughing season, that when he needed it the most.

Everyone expressed pity, "Oh How unlucky! Now he cant prepare his farms. What a loss."
The farmer said, "Maybe"

However, within a few days, the horse returned from the forest , and even brought a mare with itself.
Everyone appreciated, "See . How lucky. Having a mare for free. Now he will have foals to sell also."

The farmer heard this and again said, "Maybe"

Soon, one day, the only son of farmer was riding the mare and fell down from the untrained mare and broke his own leg.

Again everyone said, "Your luck has again taken a turn for unlucky. This mare is unlucky."
The farmer heard and said, "Maybe".

In a few days a war broke out. The king ordered to recruit every able bodied man. The officials came and forced every youth to join the army. The farmer's son was left behind due to the broken leg.

Everyone said with jealousy ,"You are actually lucky! This broken leg saved ur son. "
And the farmer said......

What we observe in the story?

Since life is a continuous stream of events , one leading to another, we can not judge any event in isolation as our good luck as our Good luck or our bad luck.

There is no good or bad luck, its our life and our destiny as we shape it everyday.

Its not about how things are today with us,
Its about how we take those things and what we do with those things. Every thing that look as a problem may have advantages and solutions in disguise.

What is needed is just an open mind to recognize the advantages in the seemingly bad situation. It may even turn out to be an opportunity of a life time.

So with a open approach and a clear mind, everyone can have a very "good luck."

Letting Go....

Let go of the past, and the future will be all yours,

Let go of what you think you are and you can be master of any field,

Let go the chase of your desires, and you will be rewarded beyond your dreams,

Let go of self-righteousness and judgement and you will find a world full of wonderful good people,

Let go of the grievances held deep in your mind and you will find a world of Joy.

Just let go!

Listen to the "Pain" to prevent suffering !

Friends, we have a habit of killing pain of all types immediately as it occurs.

We simply pop a IBUPROFEN or COMBIFLAM on our own.

Lets understand. Pain is not a disease. Pain is the messenger that something is wrong somewhere. That the system is out of order somewhere.

We should listen to our pain. Where exactly is it occuring. At what postures it increases or decreases. At what time. Before or after food. These 4-5 question can tell a good doctor the nature of disease without a test. For instance chest pain can be due to gas, lungs, pericardial muscles or heart, but the pain profile is different.

Similarly stomach pain can also be from gas, gall bladder, kidney etc but location, nature, intensity is unique for each cause.

Most muscular pain, very intense, esp in late night morning is due to dehydration. Therefore nothing seriously wrong is found later on.

The pain in leg muscles or back might be telling u that the shoes are killing. Change the shoes and see.

Further, ignoring or suppressing pain means the actual disorder is existing as well as growing without identification. This may lead to very serious problems in future, sometimes beyond medical science in longer run.

Also, prolonger use of pain killers is also harmful esp leading to kidney failure, ulcers and so on

Every pain tells us some thing about or health, esp if it is recurrent.

Therfore listening to the pain can save us from a lot of suffering in future. Listen to it first.

Make your Android phone an anti snoring device!

Make your Android phone an anti snoring device.

Snoring is a very serious problem for the whole family leads to a hundred diseases including weight gain, fatigue, depression, anxiety and heart problems in long run.

I have worked out a way to prevent snoring with an android phone.

Required: 1. One android phone fully charged. Put your old phone to use.

Apps: 1. Noise Killer 2. Argus touch blocker 3. Keep screen on

Steps:
1. Download and install the three apps.
2. Now put the phone in airplane mode
3. Reduce brightness to the minimum
4. Disable screen lock. Open "Keep screen on". In settings: left tab: select argus and noise killer. Now touch icon in top right. U will see 3 options. Select middle one.
5. Enable Argus touch blocker. Now an item of touch block toggle switch (enable/disable) will come in the swipe down menu. It can also be disabled by triple tap by default.
6. Now start noise killer. The value in the middle is the noise limit. We will use this limit to detect snoring. Put value 55 in it. Now it will vibrate with noise above 55 db. This value can be changed by you for best results.
7. Now enable touch block, ie. Disable touch screen.
8. Now you have your Anti snoring device ready. Keep it near your pillow or under your pillow. It will give slight vibration whenever you snore, thereby aiding you in changing posture to stop snoring.

Inspite of the above, if u snore very very heavily, and your breath stops for a few seconds in between (ask your spouse to find out) then i strongly recommend a sleep test at a hospital. It can save your life.

Mental Problem due to physical causes!

Brain is a part of body.

Just as body goes through its phases of good and bad health, the brain does too.

just like the body that has infinite stages of health, from Exuberance to complete failure of systems, in the same way , the mind also goes through infinite stages from Awareness, sharpness and peace to complete insanity.

The various symptoms that tell us of mind going through a bad phase are,
Mental Fatigue,
Anger,
Lack of clarity in thoughts,
forgetfulness,
impulsive reaction,
LACK OF SLEEP,


these, if not rectified, in very long run will give rise to : Anxiety, depression, Bipolar .....

Mostly when we go through a bout of anger or anxiety, we blame the situation or other person's behavior as the cause of our bad behavior or wrong choice of action and the mental suffering that we went though.

However, the same situation and the misbehavior of others would have been handled in a different wayr, by a mind that is calm and aware, leading to a different and favorable result.

The state of mind before entering a situation mostly decides the outcome of the situation. A calm mind can use even a difficulty to his own advantage.

This means, we have a choice . A choice of tackling life , situation and persons in a better way with a better outcome.

The choice is of keeping the mind at the best health of calmness, awareness and sharpness.

The way to do it is through care of body, esp brain by
1. 8 hours sleep.- Brain needs it very very badly and the body too, esp after 30-40
2. 4-5 lts water intake- Body is 65% water, brain is 75% water. if there is any Amrit in the world, it is Water itself,
3. Brain consumes 20% of Oxygen intake of body. Hence brain suffers first of oxygen shortfall by less breathing, shallow breathing, snoring, non ventilated rooms, tight clothes, belts, innerwear.
4. Diet with amino acids, protein- Nuts esp peanuts, milk, egg, fruits. Keep variety of fruits, dry fruits, vegetables , milk products in diet everyday

Care of Mind:

1.Acceptence: Accept yourself the way you are. Aceept family, friends, people as they are.

2. Forgiveness- Humans make mistake and learn by mistakes. Forgive yourself for everything you did or did not. Forgive others , they are all human too. Forgive as a selfish act, for your own best interest.
A practical way- "My Boss/family member/friend is ............. but he/she is far far better than ..............."
this allows you to see the goodness in all and in the world. Do it, once in a while. Only the first time is difficult. Results are great, instantaneous and you would surprise yourself.

3. Compassion to all- The best medicine and state of mind.

This is the path of mind from sorrow to happiness and from struggle to success.

"The Miracle Medicine: Love"

Today these are common problems post 30s- anxiety, anger, insomnia, weight gain, spells of depression.

As well as "Emotional dryness ": feeling no emotion of love, affection, excitement etc.

Present diagnosis and treatment: None, only symptomatic treatment.

Real cause:
"Adrenal Fatigue "

Sometimes we push our body inspite of fatigue for extra hours for  work, exam or party purpose.

Body has a wonderful mechanism to maintain output inspite of fatigue.
It is the " Adrenaline Boost".

When we consider something to be very serious, mind considers it a situation of "Survival" i.e. "life and death "

Now hypothalamus asks adrenal gland to pump up the Adrenaline level in blood.

Now, due to the spurt, these will increase:
Heart rate, respiration, sweating, wakefulness, energy level, muscle power, awareness and focus,

These will drop: sleep, feeling of pain

Examples of Adrenaline spurt: A wounded man running for miles when chased by tiger, a mother running into a burning house to save her child without feeling burn, athletes during tournaments. A cornered desperate man suddenly gathering incredible force and overpowering many.

Problems: Adrenaline being such a lifesaver is still meant to be used like a lifesaver only, ie once in a blue moon .
In nature, such "Survival " scenes are far fewer tham today's urban life. Therefore,  nature has allotted only a limited quantity of Adrenaline to us.

Nowadays,  we mostly consume the quota by 35+,  hence the burnout due to little adrenaline generation by body also called "Adrenal Fatigue " . Hence people find it hard to go on if not due to compulsions of carreer or family liabilities and not for joy.

Adrenal fatigue gives rise to many diseases and can be fatal in long term.

Solution: Love, affection, Compassion

Oxytocin is behind all human bonding: whether of  mother -child, spouses, friends. Without oxytocin there would be no civilization, in fact not even life itself if not for bonding between mother -child.

Oxytocin and Adrenaline reduce each other and come from two different states of minds. Adrenaline promotes lower animalistic drives, while Oxytocin promotes bliss, Compassion, togetherness.

Adrenaline - primitive, animalistic behavior
Oxytocin - Supreme, towards divine

"Oxytocin treatment ":
Adrenal fatigue can be countered very easily by Oxytocin treatment,  which also makes life full of joy and bliss.

How to :
1. Cut down on violent / stress full films, news or saas bahu serials: mind does not differentiate between "Reel or Real". Thats why u laugh, weep, or feel exhilaration at the climax of a movie or dream or a match. Your mind just lived the whole experience with all its negative results.
In fact we ho through such films, matches or theme parks, adventure sports just to squeeze that last bit of Adrenaline, for the feeling of being "Alive".
2. Spend more quality time with family, kids, friends and pets.
3. Prefer emotional comedies. Such serials, literature even photographs help. Romantic songs, esp.of your adolescence
4. Meditation
5. Cuddling
6. Massage
7. Food: Essential amino acids- fish, soyabean, nuts, white sesame (til), CHOCOLATE ( said to mend broken hearts), milk products ( hence DOODH BADAAM)
8. GOOD SLEEP
9. Drinking 4-5 ltrs water
10. Breathing exercises

The best part is, Oxytocin supply is infinite!

So,  take the path of Oxytocin and live the life, the way it is meant to be.

One more thing: Affection can not come for any one till you hold grievances and complaints against them un your heart.
Hence, forgiveness is the first step to compassion.

It is due to the divine benefits of oxytocin that Jesus, Buddha, sufis all shown us the path of Compassion and Forgiveness.

So, "All you need is... Love!"

"How I transformed the Universe!"

Approx 1 year ago I stumbled on a hidden way to transform the universe completely and then I implemented the method to the universe, my universe to be precise, but then, there is only one universe that exist for me which exists in my mind and my perception and the same is true for everyone.

One year back I knew so many nasty, egotistical, unpleasant, angry, touchy disrespectful people. Every where I went I could not avoid these inconsiderate, impatient, irritable, and unfriendly  people.

I used to suffer through frequent spells of anger, disappointment, disillusionment and negativity due to these people around me. For me it was a highly negative, hopeless universe.

Then, I found the way.

It was through a magic mirror. It allowed me to see into myself, my own mind, my own thoughts. When I looked at my own thoughts and my own life as a neutral observer, I found that most of the time it was I, who was being egotist, touchy, angry, irritable, unfriendly and all. While I was having a negative perception of people I knew, they were also getting the same perception of me due to my own behavior which modified their behavior to me. It was an infinite action-reaction-rereaction loop.

Basically all the negativity was being generated inside me. I, as the source, was spreading around me the negativity and unhappiness, which was being reflected to me from every corner, multiplied mnay times.

So, I found, this was wrong with my universe.

I went on to study people very closely. To, my surprise, I found that people are not much different from each other. Same dreams, aspirations, same fears, insecurities,  same conditioning by society. Inside,  we were almost the same.

Only problem,  we had two sets of rules. One for us and the next for others. That is what was causing almost all resentment. Example:My fault could be an innocent mistake, while other's fault would be a mischief.

This was the root of almost all discord, whether between life partners, inside family esp the Mother in law- Daughter in law,  colleagues, neighbours and so on

Another simple Example :
If I forget a birthday, it was an honest forgetfulness, but if the other forgets its lack of care. Thousands of other examples.

Now, I started work on transforming my self from within by,
1. I took my anger as my serious disease and found it to be originating from an unhealthy body with less oxygen, water, nutrition and sleep. The treatment of these deficiencies took care of half the anger.
2. Forgiving everyone: Same rules, same benefits that i keep for me extended to others also, of being human, making mistakes, not knowing better and so on.

Results immediate and very amazing.

A Fresh start of life. Being friendly and considerate, the wonderful response that I received from everywhere, removed the whatever remaining anger within me.

Now.

The world, I, found to be a completely different one,  a transformed one. Everywhere I went, I found, good friendly people. Some had the goodness a bit deep, sometimes unknown to themselves, but a true friendly, compassionate approach could bring it out very soon. Now I could categorize all the people I knew in two categories- friends and friends to be.

Such a lovely world.

The transformation of the Universe was a life chaging transformation that started with transforming myself.

Transform the universe, start today!

"Inner Peace!"

The always elusive inner peace!

Where to find it!

What is the requirement - whether to renunciate all property, all enjoyment, all pleasures and grab a pair of plain robes of yellow, saffron, white or any other color on your way to Himalayas .

Whether to shave the head and beard or grow them very long.

Whether make a pilgrimage, or do a heavy donations to this place or that.

Whether to eat only vegtarian, with no oil no salt no sugar and no spice, or whether to fast mostly.

Thankfully,  none of the essential, some of that not even required.

Inner peace comes to a healthy mind- I.e. A mind without issues presnt in a healthy body.

The first stage:
The first stage is a healthy body, without taking care of the body, all exercise,  pranayam and meditaion is fruitless. HALF of mental issue are arising out of the mechanisms of the body out of sync.

Requiremnets: very simple, 8 hrs sound sleep, 4-5 ltrs water,  moderate diet with everything in moderation even oil, salt and sugar, unless advised otherwise by doctors. Body needs everything esp vegetables, fruits,  dry fruits and non veg. Eat all that you like with variation and in moderation of quantity and richness. U can take multivitamin, multimineral supplements once in a while.

Second stage-

Mind chokefull of issues, fears and bad memories. Some of the issues with oneself and the rest with family, friends, boss, superiors, subordinates, neighbours, in fact everyone we know even the political leaders, other important people of past and presnt.

We start accumulating garbage in the mind soon after birth and keep pushing more and more through life. Results are obvious. Where will happiness and peace reside?

How will we be happy when we have grievances and judgements against everyone we know.

Solution- Acceptance,  reconciliation and forgiveness.
Accept yourself and people as they are.  Forgive yourself and others for being the way you and they are. Being human is about making mistakes and learning by them, self improvement. Also, most of the time, almost everyone is a potential friend waiting for a warm extended hand.

Forgive everyone that you know near, far, past, present everone,  by heart, in self interest.

Empty your mind of the garbage, and feel the lightness, relaxation and peacefulness immediately.

First time most difficult but become easy immediately. This is a continuos process as issues keeps accumulating as garbage in mind. Keep doing it once in a while.

Third stage- Compassion and positivity. 

Fourth stage- Self realization.

This is the progression. No shortcuts. Why not Start today.

Peace to you.

Learning!

Learning actually starts the day you understand that everything ever told to you is only partially true!

Evolution of MInd!

Evolution of Mind- From Sufferings to Happiness and from Struggling to Success.

Brain is a part of body.

Just as body goes through its phases of good and bad health, the brain does too.

just like the body that has infinite stages of health, from Exuberance to complete failure of systems, in the same way , the mind also goes through infinite stages from Awareness, sharpness and peace to complete insanity.

The various symptoms that tell us of mind is not feeling well are,
Mental Fatigue,
Anger,
Lack of clarity in thoughts,
forgetfulness,
impulsive reaction,
LACK OF SLEEP,


these, if not rectified, in very long run will give rise to : Anxiety, depression, Bipolar .....

Mostly when we go through a bout of anger or anxiety, we blame the situation or other person's behavior as the cause of our bad behavior or wrong choice of action and the mental suffering that we went though.

However, the same situation and the misbehavior of others would have been handled in a different wayr, by a mind that is calm and aware, leading to a different and favorable result.

The state of mind before entering a situation mostly decides the outcome of the situation. A calm mind can use even a difficulty to his own advantage.

This means, we have a choice . A choice of tackling life , situation and persons in a better way with a better outcome.

The choice is of keeping the mind at the best health of calmness, awareness and sharpness.

The way to do it is through care of body, esp brain by
1. 8 hours sleep.- Brain needs it very very badly and the body too, esp after 30-40
2. 4-5 lts water intake- Body is 65% water, brain is 75% water. if there is any Amrit in the world, it is Water itself,
3. Brain consumes 20% of Oxygen intake of body. Hence brain suffers first of oxygen shortfall by less breathing, shallow breathing, snoring, non ventilated rooms, tight clothes, belts, innerwear.
keep good breathing habits.
4. Diet with amino acids, protein- Nuts esp peanuts, milk, egg, fruits. Keep variety of fruits, dry fruits, vegetables , milk products in diet everyday

Care of Mind:

1.Acceptence: Accept yourself the way you are. Aceept family, friends, people as they are.

2. Forgiveness- Humans make mistake and learn by mistakes. Forgive yourself for everything you did or did not. Forgive others , they are all human too. Forgive as a selfish act, for your own best interest.
A practical way- "My Boss/family member/friend is ............. but he/she is far far better than ..............."
this allows you to see the goodness in all and in the world. Do it, once in a while. Only the first time is difficult. Results are great, instantaneous and you would surprise yourself.

3. Compassion to all- The best medicine and state of mind.

This is the path of mind from sorrow to happiness and from struggle to success.

NB: Medicines taken for sleep, anxiety, depression , if any should be continued. When one feels better, he can reduce or discontinue with consultation of doctor.