Where is the fire ?

When our lives or essentials of life are under threat then Stress , anxiety , panic or "do or die" sensations generate within body and mind. This puts brain and body in "Fight or Flight mode".

For a caveman, such scenarios included Being chased by a predator, or a flood, or a wildfire or war with other tribe, which all would naturally happen very few times in his life.

For a contemporary human it's much more complicated, losing a project, closure of business, losing job, losing promotion, failing an exam,  relocation to missing a deadline, or even missing a meeting or even missing a bus...it all generate same amount of Life and Death situaation hormones Epinephrine (Adrenaline)/ Norepinephrine as well as the main stress hormone Cortisol, same amount as in the caveman when being chased by lion. We act as if things are on fire everyday.

Are we really being chased by lion, or in such a threat , when we are telling our mind of such threat level? It's only the thought process that automatically many times overrate the threat level resulting in same response of psychosomatic system of body taking in into a Fight or flight response or rather nowadays keeping in Fight or flight response all day, every day.

Other reasons include lifestyle factors such as poor sleep, bad diet, over indulgence etc, poor support from family, friends, peers etc

To put the above in correct perspective, let's just jot down amd categorize what's Essential to What's a add on in life, broadly as follows, in general,

Essential:

Life

Health

A living to sustain life, health and family

Roof, vehicle, Amenities 

X Amount of money

Crucial:

Family

Friends

Self Esteem

Mental Peace 

Love in Family 

X+Y amount of money

Adjustment

Time for all of above and still time for yourself to sit relax or do what u like doing , some time every day

Meaning of life/Purpose

Desirable:

X+Y+Z money 

Bigger and better house and car

Extras/Luxury:

Still bigger and better House, to still....

Still bigger or better Car, to still...

Fame and Social standing , social recognition

X+Y+Z+Infinity amount of money 

If u have essentials u are surviving,

If u have crucials u have all u need,

If u have desirables then u have more than u need,

If I have extras u have more than u need and still more..

Now If we believe social recognition, praise from peers is essential to survive , then we have more ocassions for Life and death mode life and as we wrongly categorize more and more items of Extras and Desirables as Essentials we live more and more under an imagined sword ( but still as deadly as it can also kill) and also burn ourselves and waste the wonderful things of life ie Life itself, youth, and time !

In other words, let's recount all u have when u wake up in the morning,

Life - Every day many don't wake up in the morning,

A working Body- Many don't have this

Youth- An age to do and enjoy something, many yearn for lost youth

Family- Many don't have 

Love in Family - again many don't have this

A decent lifestyle and a job supporting it- Many many don't have this,

You have time spend with family , friends and doing things u love- many need this 

If u have all this , what exactly is that u don't have, more numbers on papers?

Furthermore,

If ur Friends are ur friends only if u have a certain life style, then they were not your friends to begin with.

If u get sense of self esteem from ur house or ur car , then u vastly undervalue urself.

Realx, worry less and  enjoy ur blessings !