Once an uncle of mine
during a chit-chat was describing his dislike of extra fashion
conscious teenagers and he told me how his father was correct when he
used to say that “these teenagers would go around wearing even rags
if it came into fashion or some movie star wore them.”
This story was very much
revealing in one aspect that my uncle now a die hard conservative was
also a liberal in his days. Yes, he just like his previous generation
and so on were all rebels in their own days who went on to become 'no
nonsense' and 'nothing doing' super serious seniors. The other part
of the revelation is more shocking, we of the younger generation are
on our way to join this club soon. The changes have begun even if
unnoticed. I also think sometimes of ourselves as experimenting but
responsible youth while the next generation as casual, non oriented
youngsters (brats, in some cases too). The age old statements like
“What will become of this world.”, “In our days.....”,
“Things have gone to dogs.” etc etc. I who once sported a crew
cut, the first in my town maybe is annoyed with the 'Tere naam'-cut
and of course the later ones. Same about liking parties, late
evenings, movies etc and hating bans and prohibitions by youngsters
who on becoming seniors impose similar bans 'in the best interest of
subject.' Amusing, isn't it!
The fact is very simple.
Our behavior has very less of the individual or uniqueness than we
think and has in fact more of the age group, the then peer group
etc. In other words our approach, the attitude and behavior is much
more affected by psychosomatic factors than we can imagine.
In other words, we will
be much more like our fathers than we can imagine, and they were much
more like us than they are ready to accept. So, on the basis of the
change we undergo in almost an identical manner, we should accept the
younger as well the older generation and resolve the differences.
Our seniors are more or
less our future versions and the youngsters or 'brats' are our past
versions.
Keeping this in mind we
can understand the approach and mindset of others and can resolve the
issue much more amicably. We can also understand, accept, forgive and
forget the petty issues much more easily and enjoy all our lives much
beautifully. This is very important as the family and family matters
are of highest priority in anyones life and a happy family life can
balance even the upheavals of the world as well as an unhappy and
turbulent family life can negate all victories of the outside world.
Not only that. With most
of our friends and acquaintances we have our disagreements and
dislikes of varying degrees at many times which lead to discord and
sometime damage the relationships beyond salvage. These unresolved
issues go on to inflate and this road leads to Break-ups, Divorces
and the final goodbyes. Most of these relations could have become
the joy of our life, if we had handled them with more understanding
of the other's POV (point of view) just by thinking of what we would
have felt, thought or done in their place. We will finally find the
actions and thoughts similar to us. In relationships no wrongs or
rights and no goods or bads. Accept all others as what we all really
are, just humans. Humans, who are good within, who like to do good,
but have our common little weaknesses, ego and insecurities, and
'being always right' is one of them.
So, dear friends, accept
all the others in our family and circles as more or less ourselves
too, just in a different state, stage or circumstances. We all are
much more identical than we think. We change and then we become the
same.
Enjoy the circle of
life!
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