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Short of time?

Time is something we are always short of and therefore we have to be in a rush all the time. 

In this 24/7 race against time, sometimes we forget the puepose of the race itself.
Once I heard a joke which goes like :
A man sees his friend running on the road and dragging his bicycle with him as well. The man asks, " Hey, why don't you ride the bicycle!" He gets the answer, " I im in a hurry. I don't have time to sit on the bicycle."

Funny, but in our day to day and dawn to dusk racing, what happens is that the  troubled and unfocussed mind also works at the lowest efficiency.

In the race to live, we forget to live at all and also how to live.
As a result, all of us, who actually are capable of much bigger and much better accomplishments are doomed to a mediocre life, and at the twilight zone, we wonder where did the life go away, how did the 70 years pass away and what the hell the hurry was for? The hurry doesnt seem to make any difference at the end.

At the end we realize that time was the actual wealth, the actual capital that can only be spent, the property that can not be bought at any price. The  total wealth of the universe  an create matter and energy but can not create even a minute of time.

So, what this precious wealth , the Time actually is?

We do not know about it. We are not sure about it. We can't see/ smell/ touch/taste it. None of the finest scientific instruments including those who can see the atom to those who can see billions of kilometers far away fail to sense it.Still, Surprisingly, we, every single one of us, claim to keep its account always. What is it?
It it Time!
We claim to measure Time, though we can't detect the existence of even a single second of it.

Every calendar, clock, wristwatch, cellphone, computer, TV, dvd upto the microwave seem to be keeping track of Time.


Time is the most fundamental law of the existence of the universe as well as the Life.
What we percieve and name as Time is nothing but the most obvious yet unnoticed fact of the cyclic nature inbuilt in each atom, each phenomenon of the universe.
 Time is the Solemn Statement of God himself, stating the non existence of any begining or any end. Only cycles!
We first observed this law as well as  the existence of Time itself with the sunrises and sunsets and invented Day, Then hours and minutes. We watched seasons and invented Year. We watched Moon phases and counted months. Our calendars count the days and watches count the minutes. 
Our watches do not measure the time, not at all. They only keep count of the cyclic mechanism, whether springloaded, pendulum, sunlight, sandfall, peizo or atomic. The clocks then compare their cycles with a cycle of nature, ie day and year and fragment it into seconds and beyond.

Hacking Time:

Still, the Time remains unreplenishable, exhausting every second, mercilessly.
Can nothing be done to slow the time even minutely! Can a few minutes not be added at all. Will we never come out of this shortness of Time?
Answer is 'Yes'.

The secret lies in our minds. Time has one more diamension, present in our minds. 
Time exists in our minds as well. Which means that Time moves as slow or as fast as we percieve it to.
For example, imagine a 100 m sprint. A Casual watcher who is bored, daydreaming or talking would almost fail to notice anything except the start or finish. An avid watcher would watch the race as it happens but at a very fast speed, too fast to watch all contestents. But the sprinter, for him the time slows down before the race starts, remains slow and becomes slower as his chest touches the ribbon. The experince of these persons of the same 10 seconds quite differ. For the casual watcher, these 10 seconds did not exist at all, for the avid watcher these were like 10 seconds and for the sprinter the time almost took half a minute as per his own perception. In sports many a time a batsman, bowler, golf player or football player finds himself watching the ball frame by frame, almost as if in a slow motion.
This is the power of concentration. The deeper the concentration, the slower is the time. Vice versa, the more fragmented the focus, the lesser aware the mind, the faster is the time. Amphetamines and other stimulats raise the wakefulness to this end.
So, by reducing the extra worries and random thoughts awareness can increase. 

Strangeness:

Another example: visiting an unknown place seems to take more time than a known place at the same distance. In fact, always, going to an unknown place seem to take a lot more time than coming back. Reason is awareness, in this case known as strangeness.

A strange unknown environment raises concentration or awareness and then the time slows down.
Another well known example, while running and falling the time slows down.
 Also a strong slap and its stimulus to the mind, slows down time considerably. This technique is used heavily in Zen temples, where a master sometimes slaps or hits a pupil who seems to be at the threshold of enlightent, who is missing the final piece of the jigsaw, who is missing just the bit. In such a case, a slap or a hit might give him the strangeness, that moment of time of heightened awareness when everything comes into place and the light is switched on in the darl, as if a myopic suddenly got the correct glass suddenly.

This is the value of strangeness.
In fact enlightemnt is nothing but a moment of strangeness after one or more lifetimes of query, search and meditation.

The strangeness is also the reason, that travelling helps so much in this query. When going through unknown areas and meeting strange people,  one is in a deeper awareness,can question, observe and think over the same things, that he would miss entirely at his own home.
Another exaple of this is that while we can notice all the cobwebs and spiders in the drawing room of a host we are visiting, we do do not notice much larger ones in our own drawing room.
So, the secret of the time is the awareness. By keeping our minds lighter loaded and externalising our minds, we can improve our awareness and then we can be far more efficient, productive and successful. Hours, Days, months and Life will all become longer in your own frame of reference resulting in success and thereby happiness
Some suggestions to this purpose are organizing things and routine, cutting down TV time, being online once in a day or only as per need rather than the present 'always on' system,  Reducing the 'multitasking' as far as possible and greatest of all, by meditating.
Good luck to you in developing awareness and harnessing the most previous resource of time!

Bad things happening with Good people!

Many a times we feel that it is mostly the good and the righteous who suffer, while the evil live and enjoy their evil deeds.

One of my favorite zen anecdotes-
The horse of a farmer runs away to the forest. All the neighbours consoled the farmer and commented " How unlucky! Losing his only horse.". The farmer only replied "maybe".
In a few days the horse returned alongwith another mare with it. Now the neighbours said, "Getting a mare for free. How lucky! The farmer again replies "maybe".
One day the farmer's son falls from the mare and breaks his leg. The villagers expressed their sympathy and say, "How unlucky. Such a young boy breaking his leg." Again  the farmer replied only "maybe". After few days a war started between this country and its neighbouring country. All the young or able males were getting conscripted in the army. The king's staff do not conscript the farmer's son due to the broken leg. Now, thd villager's were envious and said, "Lucky chap. Breaking his leg at the right time and getting away."

Now, the farmer listens and only says , "Maybe."

Like this story, life is not a single event, single match or a single hand of a game. Life is like an almost infinite stream of events. Every event, however small, affects every event, however large, downstream in this current of time. In this incalculably complex mechanism, life simply becomes completely unpredictably. Who knows who all will meet him for what and what plans will begin, when a natural calamity will come, when a war or recession in a far off country will rain money on some and close many other shops.
Some microspic events also initiate transformation of thw whole world. There are many such example throughout history.
For instance, discovery of steam engine started Industrial revolution and empire building from Britain.
A painter who when refused admission in Vienna acdemy developed a career in politics and went on to start World war 2, Hitler.
An arrow stroke to the eye of Hemu, the Indian ruler changed the loosing battle of Moghuls in India and completely changed the present and future for thousand of years.
Alongwith thousands of such visible cause and effect relationships, there are also present trillions of undercurrents of many cause many effect relationship beginning and culmimation every second.
There are no individual cause and effects. There are no individual fortunes.
Therefore, we can never know that what good waits us after this bad turn. Or what bad may come after this victory. It is very much possible that this failure or harm is going to get me a bigger gain in future. Maybe this lost battle has changed the scenario to get me a bigger war.

No event can be judged as good or bad in isolation. In this chaotic mechanics any event can lead to any outcome. Therefore, let us place total trust in the God that we believe in and take the things as they come.
By being fluid not rigid, being open and not closed, being dynmic and not static I can utilize even the problems I face into opportunities for myelf. By changing the approach and planning dynamically as per the situation one can make the best of almost any situation to his benefit and this is the secret to success.  Utilizing even the problems.

Further,I am good or not only God knows,  because all 6 billion people are good in thier own eyes.
What happens to me, is the result of what I have at some time done to others. This is the whole theory of Karma i.e. Sowing and reaping and what goes around, comes around.
So, if I want very good things to happen with me, worrying and criticising will not help at all. Praying to God will help, but what will help many more times is being good to others and doing good things. What is best, is doing good things spontaneously, as a duty without any expectation or calculation of gains. This is is the teaching of Upanishads, Karmayoga, Geeta and also of Tao. This is the hidden algoritham behind the above mega-complex chaotic multi cause-multi effect chain.
To summarise, let us accept that
We all are good, let us try to act good spontaneously and accept the events as Gods will in our best interest, as a parent to a child.
Accept things as they come, evolve upon them and have faith in God.

We all are Good and things that happen to us are also Good and will be better if we ourselves become better.
This is secret of eternal happiness.

Love is God!

Love is not only the happiness and joy of life but Love is the path to God also.
The road to God goes through the steps of Query, doubt, knowledge, assimilation and application of this knowledge with meditation for instance, Achieving Awareness of the true nature of the life, the world and God and then comes the enlightenment leading to God.

But, On this path, our brain and thinking can only take us upto the level of knowledge only and no further! The thinking brain can look  but it will not see or percieve.

After that level only the heart can be the guide, to the hidden path of Love.

God and his spirit is everywhere in this world, all around us and in fact inside us also. Every Human, animal or particle us hiding the divine glow inside itself and this cloak of invisibility of is called 'Maya' or Ignorance.
Ishvasyopnishad says that all that is visible and all that is invisible is Supreme God himself. Also it says that "The enlightened is the one who sees all in God and God in all."

In an anecdote, Once when Guru Nanak Dev ji was sleeping in Holy Mecca with his feet towards the Kaaba, he was reprimanded by somebody for keeping his feet towards the "Home of God". He expressed his tiredness and requested the person to kindly move his feet towards the direction where God did not reside. When the angry person started moving his feet he was amazed to see that whatever direction he moved he would see Kaabasharif in front of him. God was residing everywhere, and he was blessed to see it.

Our God, whom we try to love with all our hearts is with us and inside us all the time, yet we, the innocent children in our ignorance can not see him. Our reliance on our physical eyed fail us. We search him in temples and churches. We go to far away places for pilgrimage. We go to Masters, Gurus and Babas. Finally we find him, if we are successful, in our hearts. We find him in ourselves, in our parents and family, in our neighbours, in all humans, in all living beings and in all the non living as well and then is our journey to our dear eternal home completed.
When we see God in all humans, it is not just a statement but acceptance of all, any caste, creed, color, age, gender or wealth as our dear ones. When the enlightened sees into the eyes of any person he sees the spirit of God hiding in those ignorant eyes. He treats all the Living with same compassion as with his beloved.

The sufis and fakirs have realized this for a very long time and in a story, once  a fakir was sharing a bread with a dog. When somebody asked him why he behaving so absurdly, he was answered by the fakir that, " The  God and The God are sharing The God, why are you asking O God."
This is the true path to God and whatever form we worship our God in and whatever temple or church we go to, let us first love ourselves, our parents and family also. Let us embrace our neighbors and all others with the same compassion. Has anybody ever seen any fault or ugliness in his beloved, his mother or his child. Love sees only the good and that is why Love is the beauty of life. Yes, it is not easy and yes, it will not happen any time soon. But, it is the true path, it will happen gradually and surely and life will be much more beautiful on this path.
The person who needs the most compassion  from you first is nobody else but yourself. Forgive yourself for past errors and all, accept and appreciate yourself the way God has made you and look at yourself with the same compassion. Then let us do the same with the family, the neighbours, the acquaintances and the strangers, whoever they be. What is the surprise is that the Love spread by you is also returned to you by others and the only way of getting Loved has always been by Giving the  love.
Since we already love our family, the first person of non-family encountered to us is our neighbour and maybe that why God askes us to "Love our neighbours" as that is the first step to loving all living beings.

This is the way to have a happy life and build up a Beautiful and Happy world brick by brick and also the path to our beloved God.
The path of Love.

The Overheated Chip !

In many ways the human mind and brain can be compared to the computer os and the hardware.
When a child is born, he is born with minimal capabilities and information. He knows just to breath and to partake of his food, i.e. milk as per gods design. He can not see. He can not control the limbs, other organs or the natural needs. He can hear and the only response he has is the  crying. Crying of a child can be for 13 different reasons from hunger, pain, cold, hot in short anything abnormal.
Then in a few weeks, the device drivers of the optical, audio and the motor units start getting installed. Then starts a massive data uptake, compilation, linking and summary of the information collected continuously of all sense organs.
Then more complex programs of speech, identification etc are loaded and in a few months a fully loaded supercomp is running at full speed.
At the twilight, the reverse happens. Memory blocks start getting corrupted. Drivers fail. Motor mechanisms also become slow and unsteady and so on.

What happens in between?
In the period of youth and afterwards when the hardware is finally set up, it can not develop or repair any more but starts getting corrupted block afte block.
Also, if one could see inside the task manager of an adult human, he would find at least 20 programs running on the front end and a hundred in the background. Remember, how Windows start shaking and hanging at just 50 programs. These programs include the boss, the colleagues, the life partner, kids, school, promotion, house, emi, tax, investment, neighbors, friends, relatives, nation, politics, cricket, vacation, bills, past, present, future and so on. Many of these background programs take over in idle time i.e. sleep in shape of dreams. That is why dreams show us what is running undreneath the conscious mind and are called "Golden road to the subconscious." or something like that.
So we are looking here at a chip multitasking and severely overloaded and overclocked. The result is obvious, burning out if the chip at a fast rate and reduced life, besides reduced efficiency coz any productive work like your ppt would take forever.
So what to do to save ourselves from burning out early as well as fatal health repercursions and also to improve our efficiency and thereby our success.
Easy, the same as tweak our comp.
First, unwanted programs running in the background need to be terminated. Most important of them are memories of past and 10-20 year plans of future. The paat is already dead and the future will be allright if you do well in the present. Second is the worrying part. Worrying a lot doesnt help in solution. After that, things have to be let go, upon the trust in God, destiny as well as the confidence in oneself. We will tackle it when it happens. You can not plan every move and response in life. Let go the illusion of being in control and take it easy a bit. Worrying 24 hours will not help more than worrying 8 hours or so. What will help is, relaxing a bit and tackle the issue again after a while. A relaxed and calm mind can tackle almost all situations.
To these ends most helpful is meditation. It helps in calming the mind, relaxing, clearing, improving focus, summarizing and finding hidden solution in peripheral vision. With a bit of physical exercise or breathing exercise results can be wonderful.
Getting good 8 hours comfortable  sleep is most essential as a necessity. The REM sleep of 2 hours is the basic requirement for repair and maintenance of body and mind. The Body and mind are our most vital equipment, which has no upgradation, replacement and sometimes no repair as well. Therefore let us not burn them out and give sufficient cooling. Sleep also helps in defragging the mind and is almost a meditation. That is why the most wonderful ideas are born in early sleep or just at the time of awakening.

So friends lets handle the hardware and software with a bit of love and care and you will love the long and wonderful life you will have and yes without any error mesaages.

Who Am I?

Who am I?

Who am I?
Who is the one asking this question?

Who is having this awareness of this world?
Who is the one having awareness of this awareness?

What is this awareness? Where is this awareness? Who has this awareness? Does this awareness differentiate the Living?
If so, does every living cell has so? Is every cell of my body aware? Is my individual awareness or consciousness a collective consciousness? If it is collective then the size of organism should be related to its intelligence too?
Or if individual cells lack this awareness then is this body only a Bio-Electro-mechanical vehicle for this Awareness? If so, then can this awareness be introduced in a man-made design such as a robot? Can a Computer start thinking and say, “Hey, I think....” ?

Does this consciousness reside in the body? Is it limited by the body limits? Is it stationary?
When does this consciousness develop in an embryo? At what stage or size?

Lots of question. Most of these questions were born soon after the human life was born and have not been answered so far or have they been answered?

Scientifically, we have so far neither isolated the awareness of a living being, nor transferred it nor created it, but at least we have ascertained our lack of answers to the above question and that can be a start. All our acumen and resources have already been directed to the identification of that tinniest basic particle, the elementary building block of the universe. On the other end we humans are also slowly increasing our knowledge about how at the sub-atomic scale solid matter starts behaving as an Electromagnetic Wave (i.e. light) and Why lights gets deflected by gravitation as a matter should. At what point matter becomes light and when does light start forming particles, particles form atoms, atoms, molecules form matter and then matter forms the tangible universe. We have new theories and newer theories and so far they have raised doubts and more doubts. However, this is the methodology of scientific enquiry, i.e. Questions to answers, answers to doubts, more questions and answers, followed by a theory, experiments to confirm finally leading to knowledge. May our scientific knowledge soon cross this barrier of knowledge and ignorance.

For the time being, let us study the ancient Indian concept of 'Prana' as described by Swami Vivekananda which discloses this relationship between matter, light and awareness.

Prana (From RajaYoga by Swami Vivekananda)

Pranayama is not, as many think, something about breath; breath indeed has very little to do with it, if anything. Breathing is only one of the many exercises through which we get to the real Pranayama. Pranayama means the control of Prana. According to the philosophers of India, the whole universe
is composed of two materials, one of which they call Akasha. It is the omnipresent, all - penetrating existence. Everything that has form, everything that is the result of combination, is evolved out of this Akasha. It is the Akasha that becomes the air, that becomes the liquids, that becomes the solids; it is the Akasha that becomes the sun, the earth, the moon, the stars, the comets; it is the Akasha that becomes the human body, the animal body, the plants, every form that we see, everything that can be sensed, everything that exists. It cannot be perceived; it is so subtle that it is beyond all ordinary perception; it can only be seen when it has become gross, has taken form. At the beginning of creation there is only this Akasha. At the end of the cycle the solids, the liquids, and the gases all melt into the Akasha again, and the next creation similarly proceeds out of this Akasha.

By what power is this Akasha manufactured into this universe? By the power of Prana. Just as Akasha is the infinite, omnipresent material of this universe, so is this Prana the infinite, omnipresent manifesting power of this universe. At the beginning and at the end of a cycle everything becomes
Akasha, and all the forces that are in the universe resolve back into the Prana; in the next cycle, out of this Prana is evolved everything that we call energy, everything that we call force. It is the Prana that is manifesting as motion; it is the Prana that is manifesting as gravitation, as magnetism. It is the Prana that is manifesting as the actions of the body, as the nerve currents, as thought force. From thought down to the lowest force, everything is but the manifestation of Prana.
The sum total of all forces in the universe, mental or physical, when resolved back to their original state, is called Prana. "When there was neither aught nor naught, when darkness was covering darkness, what existed them? That Akasha existed without motion."
The physical motion of the Prana was stopped, but it existed all the same.At the end of a cycle the energies now displayed in the universe quiet down and become potential. At the beginning of the next cycle they start up, strike upon the Akasha, and out of the Akasha evolve these various forms, and as
the Akasha changes, this Prana changes also into all these manifestations of energy. The knowledge and control of this Prana is really what is meant by Pranayama.
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The Heart of the Religion and the Religion of the Heart!

One of my favorite Zen anecdotes,
In a Japanese monastery, a naughty cat used to disturb the daily meditation practice of the disciples. So, the master ordered the cat to be tied up during meditation. This goes on for a while. Later on, the master passes away, disciples pass out and finally the cat passes away too. Unfortunately tying of the cat has now become a ritual, a custom. Cats are purchased, if needed, but no meditation session allowed without the tying up of the cat. One master is so convinced of the benefits of this practice that he even writes a book on this subject.

It is an amusing story, but unfortunately it is true. Our religions have changed a lot too throughout ages. Lot of things got added, another lot deleted or obscured. Sometimes the practices start going in the opposite directions too. While the common source of all human races is an interesting subject and another one is the mutual interchange between all major relegions through time and trust me there is a lot of material available in this regard with lots of surprises.

For  example, the concepts of Vedanta goes on evolving with time and after thousands of years, Buddhism is born in India with common elements of Mediatation or Dhyan. The Buddhism travel north with several monks, Bodhidharma most famous of them. Buddhism is assimilated by China, but in synthesis with Taoism evolving as Chan and these practices finally become Zen in Japan, which again branches into many schools.
There are many such instances with every relegion. Our ancestors in ancient times were far more connected, open and exploring than we think.
The fact is that while every relegion has branched into many sects with overlapping but yet unique beliefs and practices, through generations our practices have also diverted far greatly from our ancestors. Even in a family there are minor and subtle differences in individual beliefs and practices. It seems that there are hardly even two households having exactly same set of beliefs and practices.

So, who is correct finally? Which religion and sect is accurate?

They all are. While a lot of ornamentation of rituals and practices have evolved in every religion through the millenia, deep down every religion teaches us a few most important things like,
Belief, faith, love and surrender to one Almighty God,
Being good to others,
and Compassion to all. This is the nectar, the soul, the message of every religion.
Surrender to God and Love to fellow human beings is the Heart of every religion and God, whatever name or form we percieve him by, would like us to focus on these only.
Ishvasyopnishad recognises the learned or the enlightened as only those who see everyone in God and God in everyone.
Whatever be the frequency of worshipping or size of sacrifice, God would pefer if we treated all his children lovingly instead of harassing or quarreling with.

So, let us keep following the religion of our forefathers and follow their practices, but with a total faith and surrender to God and a heart full of compassion for all our fellow human beings as the children of the same  father.
This Love will only come from the inside, the soul.

So dear friends, Surrender and Love resides in the Heart of every religion and it is the Religion of the Heart.

God bless all of us!

The Ultimate Q&A- The wisdom of ancient India!

         “Mahabharat” is the largest Epic Story as well as a Mythology and Historical Chronicle of Indian Subcontinent. Due to its enormous and all inclusive nature, about Mahabharat it has also been claimed that, “Yanna Bharate, tanna Bharate”( What is not in Mahabharat that is not in India). Besides its priceless historical content, Mahabharat also contains the Nectar-like extract of ever evolving Indian spiritual quest at its culmination. The best example of this spiritual treasure of Mahabharat is “Geeta” which is the greatest Indian spitiual treatise, which contains all the wisdom of Vedas and Upnishads in a perfect form. Besides Geeta, there are many other portion with unparalleled wisdom and insight, of which the best example is the dialogue of the 'Yaksha' and Yudhishtir. Each of these questions of Yaksha in the form of a crane and their answers by Yudhishtir reveal the secret and wisdom of the mystery of life and absorbing this knowledge we can achieve perfection of this life and beyond.


What makes the sun shine daily?
The power of Brahman (Absolute).

What does a person need to rescue him from danger?
Courage.

Which science should man study to become wise?
A man does not acquire wisdom just by studying the Shastras (sciences), but by associating with wise men.

Is there anything that sustains more nobly than the earth?
The mother who give birth and brings up her children.

What is higher than the sky?
The father.

What is swifter than the wind?
Mind.

What is more impaired than a withered straw?
An anguished heart.

What is a traveler’s friend?
Learning.

Who is the friend that stays at home?
The wife.

Who accompanies a man on his last journey after death?
Dharma accompanies the soul on its lonely journey after death.

What is happiness?
Happiness is the fruit of good conduct.

What is that, a person discards and thereafter, is loved by all?
Pride.

The loss of what results in joy not sorrow?
Anger.

The abandonment of what makes a man rich?
Lust.

What makes one a real Brahmin, is it birth, good conduct or learning?
Neither birth nor learning makes one a real Brahmin, only good conduct does.

What is the greatest wonder in the world?
-- The greatest wonder is that although people see living beings die everyday they still try to live forever.



Let us all benefit by absorbing this greatest wisdom of life.

The more we change the more we remain the same!


 Once an uncle of mine during a chit-chat was describing his dislike of extra fashion conscious teenagers and he told me how his father was correct when he used to say that “these teenagers would go around wearing even rags if it came into fashion or some movie star wore them.”

This story was very much revealing in one aspect that my uncle now a die hard conservative was also a liberal in his days. Yes, he just like his previous generation and so on were all rebels in their own days who went on to become 'no nonsense' and 'nothing doing' super serious seniors. The other part of the revelation is more shocking, we of the younger generation are on our way to join this club soon. The changes have begun even if unnoticed. I also think sometimes of ourselves as experimenting but responsible youth while the next generation as casual, non oriented youngsters (brats, in some cases too). The age old statements like “What will become of this world.”, “In our days.....”, “Things have gone to dogs.” etc etc. I who once sported a crew cut, the first in my town maybe is annoyed with the 'Tere naam'-cut and of course the later ones. Same about liking parties, late evenings, movies etc and hating bans and prohibitions by youngsters who on becoming seniors impose similar bans 'in the best interest of subject.' Amusing, isn't it!

The fact is very simple. Our behavior has very less of the individual or uniqueness than we think and has in fact more of the age group, the then peer group etc. In other words our approach, the attitude and behavior is much more affected by psychosomatic factors than we can imagine.

In other words, we will be much more like our fathers than we can imagine, and they were much more like us than they are ready to accept. So, on the basis of the change we undergo in almost an identical manner, we should accept the younger as well the older generation and resolve the differences.

Our seniors are more or less our future versions and the youngsters or 'brats' are our past versions.
Keeping this in mind we can understand the approach and mindset of others and can resolve the issue much more amicably. We can also understand, accept, forgive and forget the petty issues much more easily and enjoy all our lives much beautifully. This is very important as the family and family matters are of highest priority in anyones life and a happy family life can balance even the upheavals of the world as well as an unhappy and turbulent family life can negate all victories of the outside world.

Not only that. With most of our friends and acquaintances we have our disagreements and dislikes of varying degrees at many times which lead to discord and sometime damage the relationships beyond salvage. These unresolved issues go on to inflate and this road leads to Break-ups, Divorces and the final goodbyes. Most of these relations could have become the joy of our life, if we had handled them with more understanding of the other's POV (point of view) just by thinking of what we would have felt, thought or done in their place. We will finally find the actions and thoughts similar to us. In relationships no wrongs or rights and no goods or bads. Accept all others as what we all really are, just humans. Humans, who are good within, who like to do good, but have our common little weaknesses, ego and insecurities, and 'being always right' is one of them.

So, dear friends, accept all the others in our family and circles as more or less ourselves too, just in a different state, stage or circumstances. We all are much more identical than we think. We change and then we become the same.

Enjoy the circle of life!