The first person you should forgive!

The first person you should forgive!

Forgiveness is the key to a mentally and physically healthy life, the peace of mind and the true happiness.

So,how, where and with whom we begin this process of forgiveness!

There is a person,who matters most to every one of us. Most of our grievances, complaints and conflicts are against that particular person. Therefore, resolving our issuing with him is most important to us and should be our beginning.

Who is he?

That person is the self.
Yes our own self, our own personality. Astonishing, but deep inside our minds we blame, dislike, sometimes even almost hate our own persona for past words actions or lack of actions, bad choices that we made or for our weaknesses and  even our looks and figure.
There might not be a single person who looks in a mirror without finding faults with himself. It maybe, the blemishes, the baldness,  the complexion or the love handles etc. Beauty is what mostly we all are most insecure about.

Then comes the guilt box in the mind.
In the conscious and the subconscious mind there is a ginormous guilt box. It stores each and every mistake, blunder and folly from the beginning of your memory and even beyond.
" I was a fool to do this"
"why the hell did i /did not do this/that" and whole lot of stuff like this. This guilt box is a one way route. What goes in, stays in. These guilts,like seeds, while buried inside the mind give rise to compliactions, fears, insecurities, latent anger, dissatisfaction, obsessions and so on.
These guilts reflect in our dreams, thoughts and actions. These creatures given birth by the guilts completely ravage our Garden of Eden, a mind of happiness that we started our life with, as a child.

Start immediately forgiveing yourself.

Like yourself, your blemishes, your scars, your baldness your love handles puny structure, your dark complexion, whatever it be, that is what you are, that is how you are! You are good, you are beautiful, as beautiful as one can be. Accept yourself, love your own persona. If you do not like yourself, who else would ever will. You were made by the same God and he loves his evey child.

Also a mind at peace is a smiling face and a smiling honest face is a very beautiful face.

Forgive your own actions of past, each and every.
Tell yourself that I did that because that time i thought like that. I did not know any better. What has happened, has happened. No fault of mine, but of situation and my reactions. Maybe it was better this way. Now I know better.

Forgive yourself by all the above means. Feel good with yourself. Like and love yourself.

You matters most to you. So be affectionate towards you. Think of yourself not with anger, remorse, dissatisfaction or disappointment, but with love and appreciation.

This path leads to the way of forgiving others and then to the one true happiness, bliss, the purpose of our lives.

God Bless! Have inner peace! Be happy!

A violent world of violent people of violent minds!

Open the paper or Switch on the tv and all you can hear,
war and battles going on somewhere far or near,

shootout, murder, gunfight, assault and molestation,
everyday we wonder whats gone wrong with our nation,

Violence in homes, villages, towns, borders  everywhere,
where is the root,  it is coming from acually where,

closer than I would think, The source I found here
It is in our own minds, the violence-generator is there,

the complaints we have the grievances that we have carried,
the envy, the hate, the anger that lies alive but buried,

the rigidity, the self rightneouses makes us so blind,
that among every other, only evils is what we find,

soon we have some grouse, with everyone we know,
with everyone we recall, some negative thought start to flow,

Thou we know don't, but the anger and hate is very physical,
its not just emotions and memories but it stays in form of hormones and chemicals,

so all the hate, fear, envy anger that we accumulate with the age,
tranform us from the inside from a happy kid to an oldie filled with rage,

with every bit of anger that we go on gather,
from laughter, peace, happines and from life, we go a bit farther,

here is the violence that all persons accumulate,
that finally turns to fights,  battle and war as the cumulate.

to end all wars before we start to help,
we must end the violence deep inside ourself

first you forgive yoursel against all self grievance
then forgive the family before you advance

then forgive the friends, the colleagues the boss and the neighbor,
forgive them from your heart for any harm they did you ever,

we all are humans and we all do some mistakes,
to get it over with forgiveness is all it only takes,

forgive not for greatness but as a selfish deed,
to for your own happiness and peace you will do it indeed

life partner, Brothers, relatives, colleagues and neighbours
and the Daughter in law, the Mom in law when they forgive each other

with forgiveness and passion we can make our world the heaven,
improving ourselves will eliminate global violence even

i dream of the world where we all get along with each other,
peace, calm, cooperation and compassion everywhere.

Today we start, in the direction the first step we make,
forgive people in my lives, mostly for my own sake.

The greatest gift to yourself today you should give,
simply forgive forgive forgive and forgive.

Be Selfish, Forgive!

You are unhappy coz you are stressed,

you are actually stressed coz you can not sleep,

you can not sleep, coz your thoughts keep you alive at 1am,

you have thought of painful past and fearful future coz you have bad people in your life,

you have bad people in life coz you see them as evil beings and not humans. Humans who have weakness and humans who err sometimes, humans who give way to emotions and impulses and weaknesses, just like you my friend, humans who did not have somebody to teach them to be better.

you are unhappy because you have not forgiven them. Forgive them from heart. See them yourself in your mind as friends and see yourself embracing them. Forgive all beings on earth, past or present. Forgive and see your world changing to a world of friends, a happier world, guaranteed! Forgive because it is for your own happiness. Forgive beacuse it will make your heart light. Forgive to sleep soundly. Forgive to be happy. Forgive as an utmost selfish act. Tell yourself that you are not trying to be a great man but doing it as a selfish act.

Be selfish,  Forgive!

Serious, must read!

I have come across a very serious disease, in fact the most widespread. Medical science has not discovered it so far. It is affecting millions of  lives and is fatal in long run. Very few survive. This diease is "Seriousness"

Being serious today means being really 'Serious' on the day after tomorrow. A person tonight trying very hard to sleep, deep in the ocean of worries and fears at 1 a.m. , taking medicines for B.P.,Sugar, Anxiety and so on also started off as a carefree and a happy child.  Now as a very serious person, at an advanced stage of this disease, he is scolding his grandson to be quiet, not to do this that etc. What the hell, happened in between to him.
He learned to worry. His memory enlarged. Now whenver not occupied, his mind is swarmed by all those random memories, almost all negative ones. Recallings bad words and supposed bad action of friends, colleagues, neighbors, relatives, own family and so on. The list become endless, the world seems dark and full of evil people and enemies. This leads to future possibilities of harm from all sides. The wounds of past and the fears of future keep him up allnight, actually. Then the BP will rise, follwed by stress, anxiety, depression, sugar, cholestrol. Then the Physiologist, the cardiologist, the nephrologist, the psychiatrist, the whole legion of doctors  will start unloading all their armament of old and new pills on the poor guy, till the body and the mind finally give up.
The remedy was very simple and yet undiscovered, "Happiness". He should have been told to be less serious and more happy. Less brooding and more enjoying, going out, engaging with people, dumping his memories. Thinking good of people. Finding their goodness instead of digging to see their evil side. Come on we are all humans. We all want to be loved, honored, respected, recognized, to be safe. inside, we all share the same weakness, desires and fears. Forgive others for what you thought they did. Not at all attach motive to their words and action. Accept others. More friendliness and less ego.
The past never happened and the future will never come. What you have is today. Go out, be with family and friends, be woth kids, watch the sky, the moon, the stars, the trees, the flowers, feel the breeze, the grass, the running water. Be the child again!
Externalize the mind. Stop thinking, start enjoying today. 

The only medicine to this fatal disease of the "Seriousness" is the "Happiness". Why not take a pill now. It is free as well.

Intelligence ?

What is Intelligence ?

Intelligence of a mind is an Idea, a construct which we all believe to exist, yet would find very difficult to define or pinpoint.
To start with let us take one of the widely accepted definitions,
From "Mainstream Science on Intelligence" (1994),

    "A very general mental capability that, among other things, involves the ability to reason, plan, solve problems, think abstractly, comprehend complex ideas, learn quickly and learn from experience."

Going by the above, for an mind to be intelligent we need a mind which is not at all having a fixed or rigid approach. It should be able to see any problem or situation ideally from a 360° sweep, It should be fast, it should evolve and it should learn quickly. In short it should be flexible, it should be open.

Why does a child learn computers or smarrphone easily, which defeat all effort of many elders. Because, a child has a mind, that is relatively empty. No ideas of right and wrong, better or worse, Good or bad. A clean slate, just like a freshly formatted computer. However, With time and age, the mind gets crammed to the hilt with time, with education, teachings, preachings and social customs. Finally the mind is so rigid, one dimensional, so hard anchored to his textbooks, his beliefs, his faiths that he also looses his learning skills and adaptability.  The same child who once imagined super powers and flying trains will skoff at any new idea at his twilight end. What has happened in between ? With every concept he was taught in class and told to remember and believe, he lost some of his imagination and creativity. Learning starts from questions, why, why not, what if and so on.  Stop the questions and mind ceases to evolve. Intelligence goes south. Finally you will have a mind crammed chokeful of data, with heaps of information, a little knowledge and zero wisdom.

Who would have known Newton, Galileo, Einstein, if they had believed everything they had been told.

Knowledge comes from proofs, proofs are recived from experiments, experiments come from hypothesis, Hypothesis are born when someone starts to differ from his textbooks , from  one question!

Intelligence is adaptability, creativity, imagination, observation, experimenting and some courage, the courage to question.
To summarize, what we believe to be intelligence, which helps a man to survive, to evolve and to be successful is nothing but a fluid Mind, a mind that sees every new issue and new problem as a child would, as if seeing for the first time, with curiosity,with eagerness, with imagination, without any burden of teachings, preachings and customs and that is all it is.
So, go forth and explore, the universe is all yours!