Being right is the problem!

The biggest problem today is that everyboy thinks that he is right.
Today, there is conflict everywhere. In every home, between the husband and the wive, the Mother-in-law and the Daughter-in-law, the parents and the child, between neighbors, between colleagues at work, between the boss and the subordinate, between, between religions, between sects of the same religion, between teachers of the sect, between followers of the same teacher, enough stress and conflict is around to keep the world aflame for another thousand years. Labour-conservative, Republican-Democrats, capitalist-socialist, sociaist-Communist, Marxist-Maoist, Al qaida- Taliban, taliban- Isis, catholic-Protestant, Shia-sunni, so on and so on. The list might not be over till the world is over. In fact, what I find is that probably no two people in the whole of the world agree on everything. Everybody builts for him a completely uniqe set of believes of life and then for him it is the only set of believes that can be right because so and so and so on. Simultaneously, every other belief of the rest of the humanity is incorrect and therefore needs to be corrected by conversion or elimination and this is the root of every conflict in each home, block, town, state or nation or the entire world.
Dear friends we need to take it easy a little bit. Let us assume that while I am right, the other fellow is right too from his point of view. While I am hurt by his behavior, probably he also thinks himself a victim of my own behavior and this so often is true that one would be surprised. If i find everybody quarreling with me, it might be me who is actually quarrelsome. If I find everyone cold towards me, it might be me who actually seems cold to them.
The way back to peace, tranquility and happiness starts with toletance, with accepting that there can be more ways than one to life, success, career, happiness,  God and so on. This simple step will lead you to eradicate automatically the grudges that we hold towards almost everyone. Tolerance leads to reconciliation, which leads to acceptence, which leads to peace and harmon, which leads to Happiness.
Friends, this is the only life we got.This day hour and minute will never come again. Lets start living life here and now. Let us drop all hallucinations of being the the only right person, spread our hand to others and actually start living our lives.
I am right! You are right! We all are right in our own ways and still wrong in some other ways. Others are imperfect, but so am I and probably this is the part and parcel of being a Human. I think the great concept of Humanity can easily be summarised as "Co-acceptance, co- existence, co-operation Co- development and co-happiness"

The same is described in the ancient wisdom of this sanskrit verse.
"Sarvey Sukhina santu, sarvey santu niramayah, sarvey bhadrani pashyantu, ma kashchit dukhbhag bhavet"-
May all be happy, may all be healthy, may all percieve others in a good way, may nobody ever be sad.

And, therfore, from today, "Everyone is right!"

The Wonder of Words

"Word"

The most powerful Force, The most dangerous Weapon, the most ravishing of all beauties, the body of all creativity, the connection of love, all of this in one, and much much more, is a "Word".

It is said that the world was created from nothingness by a word of God, "Be!". 

Words are like seeds. They enter the mind, they hold the ground of the mind-space,and mind it, this is the most fertile of all grounds,of unimaginable scope. The words multiply in the mind,develop new ideas,culminate into actions and then scatter to other minds by word of mouth,written or spoken. then keep infecting and spreading for centuries and millenniums. Wonderful, it is as if the words have a life of their own, like a living microscopic organism, like a virus! As if, they are immortal and they use the minds of persons as carriers. 

Religions, Ideologies of Communism,socialism, individualism, revolutions, even the fights for freedom, most of them began with a set of words, some book, some sermon, some speech at some time. In fact, the present science, technology, philosophy all of this said to be evolved out of "Logic" as discoursed by Aristotle and Socrates. These powerful set of words, were so forceful of nature, so as to change the whole world scenario for millenia to come.

Read a novel and you find the words drawing a picture of characters and scenarios in your mind. You find the words also making you laugh, giving shocks, making you cry, playing with the strings of your emotions. The non fiction books keeping you awake at night,thinking, wondering, imagining, debating and all. A love song takes you to another time and place, a harsh word brings you to tears,a one liner splits you in laughter.A proposal of three words brings two souls together for life, a word of "Talaaq" spoken three times breaks the journey of a lifetime. 

This is the magical wonder of the "Words".

This immense power can be harnessed by us for the betterment for our lives, our families and the whole world. let us see how.

Words being so mighty forces in human relations and human issues,should be used only sparingly without pre-thought over them. A thoughtless action is called a reaction,while a thoughtful action is called a response. So, a thought is all that makes the difference, and should be used before speech,i,e, before opening the mouth, always engage the mind in gear. This, while being a well known rule is also the most violated rule in our lives, and therefore I need to reiterate. 

• Spread positivism and negate the negativism: Removing the words of Never, impossible, bad, etc from language and our mind. Replace them by difficult, needs improvement etc. this will change your outlook and strengthen your relations. Hardly anything is really bad. Since nobody and nothing is perfect in this world, things should be seen in a relative perspective. Even a rickety stool is better than a two legged one, and a two legged stool might be better than having none at all. Let us develop this approach of seeing things in a positive way, which then will reflect in your language also.
• Instead of rejecting some idea or some proposal altogether, one should think and speak on the lines, that "the idea may be ok, however these and these  issues might come up.
• Similarly for a leader, the use of words should be of positive, deterministic, absolute, committed nature.  Use of words, such as "us", "let us", "why not" etc also make a hell lot of difference in connecting with people.
• For a negotiation of all types, which we have to undergo many times a day, with friends, with family,relatives, colleagues, staff and all the words should not be rigid and closed but open and flexible a way out and for a "win-win" situation.
• There is always a high risk of the words being spoken taken in a different meaning, a different context, a different emotion and this defeats the purpose of the communication itself and is harmful. Therefore the words should be used, while keeping the person(s) in mind and their state of mind and choice of words should be done carefully. There is a joke, where the teeth complain to the tongue that it you who makes mischief,but it is who get broken in return.In fact an old hindi proverb say, " It is your tongue that gets you the sweets, but it can also gets u beaten up."

In short, our policy should be to, "Speak less, speak good, speak with thought!" ,and that should serve the purpose. Raheem has also said," Aise Bani Boliye ,man ka aapa khoye, apna man sheetal kare, auron ko sukh hoye.",i,e, use your words always in a way to give peace and happiness to you and others.

I hope this above set of words, help you in improving your life and your world.