Tao of Love: Second only to divinity.

Love is not an emotion. Its a big heap of different emotions, which are generally misunderstood for each other and the word Love is loosely used for the lot. These emotion range from affection, compassion, the higher magnitudes of empathy, strong friendship, to infatuation, obsession and finally platonic to some degrees of lust too.

Confusing one for other is a cause of severe pain in life, like understanding infatuation, or obsession so common in young age for love is a serious trouble. Similarly taking good friendship and companionship for love kills the friendship too.

Coming to infatuation, small doses in young age is OK and memorable. The higher the dose, and the higher the age, damage is more. Still higher the age, still higher dose, destruction follows.

Infatuation should be treated as such. Emotion impulse combined with hormonal kicks plus peer pressure, plus social temptations like valentine days, Cards, movies and serials and lots of things.

It feels good while it lasts, but then it wasn't meant to last longer. Enjoy when it is and cherish the sweeter part later on, taking it as infatuation only. No complications, move on. It was a part of growing up.

However, infatuations later on in life, should be viewed much much much more seriously. Stress of dailylife, lacunae in personal life, lack of companionship, no body to share too, again unsatified hormonal drives, un-exhausted early emotions cause the confusions in the mind, forming the rosy fog, where a lot but Love looks like Love and one is in a soup. Here it is not Love but a psychosomatic disorder. Alas, when the emotions are exhausted, the desires are part sated, sometimes one finds oneself chained. This scenario minus the commitment, minus the understanding, minus sacrifice but plus Ego goes “Kaboom!” In short this is what has happened to a many love marriages of college life. However situation is not beyond rescue, with some counselling, there is little that won't be fixed using a lot of commitment and sincere humble effort. About this situation more later on.

Coming back to Love, symptoms are a bit different. Symptoms may be a complete surrender, feeling no need to be somebody other than what one is, finding somebody you would love to get old with. This is Love, this is divine, this is the Juice of life, without which life is a drag, a burdensome routine. Never let anything any anything let ruin it, slip it away. Guard it with your life, this is your treasure.

Give your all, hold none, forget the spots, revel in the brightness, never back out for making amends, make every day a memorable day. This is the Tao, the Tao of Love.

Tao of stressless life

Road rage, people getting inflammed for a little money or for trivial matters. News full of these things, especially in a metro. Why is the world getting so crazy?

Sociologists, psychologists, politicians all go in different directions on these matter. What I see is the latent anger, latent stress piling up from home to office, from morning to evening, from office to home, the thunder cloud following everywhere. Life is getting complicated. Longer and longer distances to go, more and more factors to deal, more and more to interface with and time becoming less and less and less. Deadlines, targets, competition, job inscecurity, promotion, EMI, family, friends, relatives and what the heck even neighbours.

Do we really want to live in such a mad, mad, mad world, where you can get killed for a car scratch? Nobody does.

However, like everything else, the solution is far less complicated.

Where one sees a angry or irritable person , he sees the event the timely cause and the person responsible for the event etc. What I see is a troubled, fragmented, unfocussed, fatigued mind.

When one killed another for a car scratch, it wasn't a conscious decision, it was not a response. It was a reaction, when something gave away in a mind already at the tenterhooks. It was when primal instinct took control and reasoning collapsed. What is more and more alarming is the vast number of people living sooooo close to this abyss.

Coming to the solution, first get lots and lots and lots of sleep. Let the furnace of the brain cool down, let the repair team get to work. Remember, these problem alongwith the problem of lifestyle diseases started rising around fifteen years back, when something else also changed the lifestyle of indians. That was the arrival of Cable Television to India. It came and people stopped sleeping the full cycle of eight hours give or take one. Sleep this full cycle for two to three days and see the biig biig biig difference in the state of mind. Feel lighter, calmer, better and ready fro the day.

Full sleep of eight hours is also a sure remedy for high blood pressure.

Pranayam or any other activity that pumps lots of air into lungs helps a lot, since in daily rigmarole even the natural breathing is forgotten, starving the brain.

However a big but! A problem. People usually so close can't sleep even when they want. Again a simple remedy. When at bed to sleep, close the eyes, observe the incoming, outgoing breath and start counting it. Don't force deep breath etc. Just count as an observer. Mostly before you reach 50 you will be counting 'z's.

Do it at day time anytime, in office, in transit, anytime and the overclocking brain will cool down and get focussed in minutes.

Follow the above and life is calm, successful and maybe fun.